I need help with my childrens mother that walked out on us?

a few weeks ago me and my girlfriend of 4 years had an argument and she left to go for a walk,she said she didn't know when she would be home,i ended up staying awake all night waiting for her but she never came home,the next morning i packed my things and left assuming she stayed with another man over night,when i got to my parents house i came online and spoke to a mutual friend of both myself and my girlfriend,they tried calling her cell phone but there was no answer,a couple minutes later they received a text from her from a different number,so my friend gave me the number she called from and when they answered it was another guy i asked for my girlfriend he handed her the phone,unaware of who was on the phone,when she heard my voice she hung up knowing she was busted and knew i now knew she was with another man,then last week she called to tell me she had a really hard week and didnt mean for things to happen the way they did,basically telling me she was going to lie to me and try to get away with cheating on me,the worst part is we have 2 young children together and i found out the guy she is with is a local drug dealer and she has been using alot of drugs while with him,she basically walked away from our family for this new guy and his drugs,my question is how do i get over her and stop the hurt that i feel,and what do i tell my kids?I need help with my childrens mother that walked out on us?
Be strong my man.





You have some hard times ahead of you, and having her on your mind isn't gonna help any. If you tried to fix things already, then it's time to move on. If she uses drugs and cheats on you, she doesn't deserve to be the mother of your kids, let alone your partner in life. Not only did she cheat on you, but she cheated on her children.





As far as what to tell the kids, that's a tough decision. It all depends on how old your kids are/how easily they would take something like this. If they are mature enough, telling them straight up might be a better choice than letting it hang loose. Make it official and have a sit down with them, assuring them that its not their fault, because if their mom left and they grow up thinking they did something wrong, it would hurt them very much in the long run.





As for what to tell yourself, you just gotta be strong for your kids. Be their hero, and be their father. Who knows, sometime along the road, you might find someone else that has the respect to treat you right as well as your kids.





Good luck