How do i make the pain go away? cheated on!?

I walked in on my fiance having sex with a teenager! he is the other half to my soul, he is my best friend. i broke up with him and i feel so lost. i didn't know this kind of pain and anger existed! This is the fourth time he has ';blacked out'; wasted drunk and done something unforgiveable! i need to move on and start a new life, but i don't know how since i still have to talk to him.. we have a five year old child together. please tell me how i can get the picture of them out of my head and how to sleep and how to make the pain go away.. i sound pathetic right now and i understand that.. usually i am a very strong person who can emotionally go through whatever life throws at me, but not this time. so please no harsh comments.. thanksHow do i make the pain go away? cheated on!?
I would start with talking to a counselor. They can help separate your feelings towards him and help you with your child instead. I understand how you feel. Having a child together changes a lot and esp when you have a child together. You can try to talk to him as a friend and not a lover. Whenever I have a problem with my fiance, I usually take a step back and ask myself is this what I want? Can I live with this? For making the pain go away, unfortunately that is a hard one because those feelings will go away with time (only if you allow yourself to heal). I maybe would take a Tylenol PM to try to get some sleep and then I would work out and keep busy with friends and family. Can you focus on your 5 yr old and not your relationship. Keep busy with activities with your child. Go to the pool, watch a movie, color, do a puzzle. How do i make the pain go away? cheated on!?
If you still love him, I would evaluate if he is worth trying to forgive and trust again.Your pain will eventually leave you so you can move on,Believe me things do get better with time.Try not to let your emotions take over you,so you will be able to reevaluate your relationship with him. Ask you selff do you always want to have doubt about his cheating?I would advise you to go forward and never look back. It will make you feel better about yourself also later.



Girl, move on with your life. Be glad you didnt marry him!!! It hurts now, my husband cheating on me and I didnt know what to do. But after a while, that pain starts to heal on a daily basis. Focus on your son, and do things to keep you busy. He is no good, and you derserve better. One day you are going to realize why a wonderful person like yourself wasted so many tears on her fianc'e. Time heals and so does prayer. Good luck and best wishes.
I really know it's very hard to move on. Give yourself time. I promise you will find someone who cares about you. It's just going to take time.


I know you love him, and you think he can change. He is looking out for himself right now
see life is full of ups and downs n sorrow and happiness .its u cant stop to walk if u fall again n again u will learn more the relationship will be more strong if you try to solve it now and live your life again and again
I am very sorry to hear this. But pain will come and go. and in this situation it has come. But I guarantee it will go away. give it time.


talk to someone. it really helps to get it out.
i have 3 children together with my ex husband, i never talk to him. u have phone, your 5 y.o. can talk already, so why do u need to talk to him?
im really sorry that happened but what you need to do is find a hobbie and fill you're time up with it. also go out with friends
Sorry to hear about that, all i can say is to give it time.
First of all you said the right word, YOU are a strong person. You need a time to let your mind and soul heal from the pain. It's ok to be sad but push through it. Your child needs you to be strong for them, focus your strength on improving yourself, you deserve someone to give you more respect than that. No woman wants this to happen ever. Ive been there and its the worst feeling you can ever go through. Reconnect with old friends, good friends that can support you through this tuff time. Do something new, exciting and surround yourself with positive people and things will turn around for the better. Whatever you decide to do, take care of yourself and your child.
love hurts.. but people gravitate back to what there comfterble. but DONT! you dont want this hurt anymore?





You say your strong. Just take this as a learning lesson. not to be mean but he wasent thinking about you when he was fuccin her! So that right there should give you what you need to move on.





As to how to get the pain away. Sorround yourself with friends go out and stay busy. Meet people! There is someone out there that is amazing and who will treat you right. go get him!





keep ur head up