How do i win his heart back?

This is how it happened.. and i know that i messed up big time..





My ex (lets call him Austin) and i were together for a year.. he lives in a whole other city then i do a total of 54 miles away.. i cheated on him with someone (lets call him michael) and i felt so horrible after doing it.. i called him and told him what i had done and he was in tears.. he left me and michael still wanted me.. so i went to him.. i didn't want both sad when it only needed to be one and i wanted to see where i could end up.. well i started to get really deep with michael.. and i could still feel love i have for austin.. and i want to run to him but i still want to be with michael... i am really in deep with michael.. but my heart still belongs to austin and always will.. Michael and i fight all the time.. he thinks i will leave him and go with someone else.. which he kinda should be worried.. i talk to austin every time michael and i break up and tells me he don't want to get back with me yet he needs time to get over the fact that i cheated on him.. but when he waits to long michael makes me fall for him again.. Michael has taken care of me.. and so has austin.. he has broken the law for me also.. Then when i get back with michael.. i regret it cuz i want austin.. but i think that if i break up with michael now.. im going to lose more then i did losing austin.. but if i dont break up with michael i feel that i will lose him for good.. I live in Hutchinson KS. and he lives in Wichita KS. I am doing all i can to get with him.. after breaking up with michael so many times and trying to get with austin then end up getting back with michael austin eventually stopped talking to me.. then (i know this is pretty stalkerish but i cant help it) when i check austin profile one time it said ';Better loved then lost HA! BS!'; then another one said ';i loved her and she broke my heart but i bet $20 ima get it dun'; then later it said ';if i know it will work... i could wait forever, i hope it aint forever tho. lol'; and i told him that i moved up there and to look for me in school.. well i dont understand.. he said that he loves me.. and he said that he wanted to know what it would be like to be with someone else.. well i got back with michael and he is upset.. then in the about me it says ';im 16, i like 2 drive n work on trucks. i skate now n then but im not exactly the best. not a big talker but when i tell u sumthin i dnt lie. when im not at school im either wit my girl if i got 1 or tryin 2 find a way 2 make sum money.'; i dont understand.. i want him.. bad.. and i cant live with out him.. i know that i could live without michael... but i dont know if i want to.. plz tell me what u think i can win austin backk..How do i win his heart back?
Well if my girl-friend or wife was cheating on me, I would suspect it would happen again or that she would be lying to me if she said it would never happen if the situation was severe. You would need to give him time to think rather than keep pushing towards him when he is trying to push you back after what you have done.How do i win his heart back?
Click your heels and move on Dorothy.





And use paragraphs. Save that long rambling for your diary.
You are 16 you don't need to be in all this drama. choose one and stick to it or else you will end up being hurt
leave them both and take some time...show you are alone and one of them (austin) will come.


just be alone for once and... try somehow to make him learn what happened(that u are alone).. i think u need some time dont you?


just think how it would be if he knows u are alone...with no bf
ok all i can say is did you read over what you just typed? Have you noticed you only realy talk about yourself? I I I ME ME ME MY MY MY? Yea stop being so damn selfish girl! Seriously you dont deserve either of them. You cheated theres no going back and im sorry but i never have a slight bit of sadness for a person who cheats. There will never be trust in any of the relationships with those men cause you wend and did it. Do both men a big fave break up with ';M'; you are only going to end up hurting him anyway. Let both guys live their lives with out you and take a break from relationships and dating. Give it along think cause the thing is it sounds to me like you dont think about anyone but yourself, what you want and dont want what you feel and need not what your man wants, needs etc you cant ever be in a real relationship if you think about only you. Take a break chill and seriously start over. Focus on your life and then once thats settled you can only love another and not just yourself. When you have gotten over everythng start dating and dont mess up again no one deserves to be treated that way and also respect yourself so that you will be respected dont just go for any man just cause he did something for you. You cant buy love it have to come naturaly and you obviouly dont love either of those guys since you clearely said that when you are with one you want to be with the other. You wont have that problem when you give your heart to only one man who you care for more than yourself. Good luck and sorry but this is the truth
This is all very complicated, and you've hurt yourself as well as each of these boys in this process. Why did you cheat on him? If you really loved him, why did you hurt him like that? Put yourself in Austin's shoes...you are dating, you cheat on him, then the entire time you're apologizing you are also going back and forth with another guy. Can you imagine how confused he must be? And he's right to want to know why he should get back with you? What if you start dating him and then you meet someone else and you cheat on him again? It's important to be happy with yourself as well as fair to yourself and other's around you. At this point, I'd keep your distance a little bit. If you moved there, then I think that the only way you're going to have a chance to win him back is if you SHOW him you've changed. If you really love him, then you shouldn't be dating anyone else. Focus on making friends, working, school, and treating yourself and other's the right way. Ask Austin to be your friend for now and tell him that you're going to show him that you've changed. Maybe that way you can rebuild his trust and eventually he will open his heart back to being your friend and maybe your boyfriend. Good luck.
Follow these instructions:





1-get a pen and paper and sit somewhere were you can just think.


2-Write Austin at the top of the bit of paper, then on the other side write Michael.


3-Now write underneath every emotion each makes you feel and why.


4-Then write what emotions you WANT to feel.


5-The results will speak for them selves.





Good Luck!
Please Leave ';Austin'; alone!!!!! Don't talk to him ever again. You cheated on him and His Heart is broken and now you keep trying to make it up to him and then you turn around and stab him in the back again. Your relationship with ';Michael'; isn't going to work out eather. Michael realizes that you cheated on Austin and he knows that you could do the same to him. He is scared that you will leave him for Austin because you clearly still have feelings for him. This situation is completely wrong and it will not work out between any of you. I believe that you should try being single for a while and let go of all your emotions so that you can give someone in the future a meaningful relationship. Stop putting yourself and these poor guys thru all this pain. Sorry for being so harsh, but this needed to be said.
these situations are always hard but maybe you should try to be happy with what you have and give michael your all cause its not fair to him if your planning to dump him for austin cause you never know what you had till you loose it for good and you may miss michael if your with Austin Ive felt this way with my first love but i moved on and it wasn't easy but now i am more in love with my current girlfriend whom i had while i wanted my first and i never understood how she felt about the situation till i looked at it and thought how would i like it if she was doing this to me. if Michael is still around during all of this he has to care a lot about you. so my advice is give Michael your all and don't leave him untill your 100% sure thats what you really want





hope this helped