How messed up is this & whats wrong with her?

Long story short. I was with this girl for 2 years, everything was great til she moved back home an hour away, cheated and left me for this guy. Was with him for 2 months and 2 weeks ago she came crawling back, saying how much this made her realize she loves and wants me, is extremely sorry, has thought about this and is 100% sure i am what she wants, can't wait to move back to be with me. We spend 2 weekends together and everything went great, it was just like old times again.





She calls me up Monday night like a switch flipped, literally several hours after I had last seen her (and she was happy) and she tells me she is having second thoughts. No real solid explanation why. Just that she isn't sure what she really wants, is having doubts, is paranoid, maybe still likes the other guy and needs time to think. After everything she told me, and after getting me all excited (I did want her back!) she does this to me. Is this normal, or is this a pretty messed up situation? Help!How messed up is this %26amp; whats wrong with her?
it's a messed up situation... like the saying goes, ';once a cheater, always a cheater';... find someone else... she may have had a fight with her other boyfriend and wanted to come back to you but once things settled with the other guy she no longer needed you... or she may have wanted to get her boyfriend jealous... when someone really want to be with you there are no doubts...


give yourself time to heal and then find yourself a nice girl and forget about this one... GOOD LUCK!!!How messed up is this %26amp; whats wrong with her?
Well,your gf met this other guy,while she was still together with you and then broke up with you for him...Maybe being with this other guy didnt turn out as great as she wanted it to be..and so she wanted you back.Would be interesting to know, if she broke up with him or he with her...?Anyway she has still feelings for this other guy...I dont think she really wants you back, she is just still in love with the good times you two had together.I would be very careful. Good luck:-)
Dont fall for this..she's been dumped by the other guy and doesn't have a fallback except you...the minute someone else turns up you'll be left high and dry again.Remember,a leopard never changes its spots.
Stick with your instincts...it is a very messed up situation. The best thing you can do is get as far from her as possible. She is the messed up one, btw, not you. You need to bail out for good and get on with your life.
Now that you know her capabilities, move on. Remember she cheated on you, left you for another guy, then changed her mind after crawling back to you. Sounds like she's taking you for a ride. Move on. Screw her for as long as you want, but don't go past friends with benefits. And don't think about how you love her anymore. Get a better girl
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She obviously isnt ready for a serious relationship. She is playing games with you so you need to move on. Probably the reason why you want to be with her is because you enjoy the roller coaster ride. It isnt fair to you. You need to stop wasting your time and find someone that is worth your time and wont keep disrespecting you over and over again
Don't get too caught up in this situation


this girl obviously knows you are kind


and that you'll always forgive her and


be there for her so she is taking


advantage of that. Move on and live


life you'll find someone new, you need


time to heal and what better way then to


start now because she doesn't seem


to know what she wants so how are you


supposed to know what she wants either.
wow.
I am not sure how old you two are but...





Give her space....back off and let her decide. In the mean time you decide if you want her...tell her ';you are having second thoughts too and need some time to think and please do not call you for a while until you have time to think';. And do not smoother her with your confusion. Just give it time and space...it is an amazing thing...it gives great clarity. You may find this is NOT what you really want...maybe who you really want and need is just around the corner waiting for her opportunity to be with you...but will you be ready???





This is normal behavior for people deciding what they want in life and not knowing what it truly is..if you are not married then I am not sure why you are so surprised....relax and give her and yourself some space to make the right decision.





Added later: Why the thumbs down? Is it wrong to tell someone they need to give some space to another person? Is it wrong to say HE needs to be in control of HIS decisions and not moved back and forth by her lack of commitment? Come on people...some of you need a course in mental health!
I say don't even bother with her you will definitely find some one else and then you will get over her just take time to your self
It's called bipolar dude


RUN


and RUN FAST


A lot of people with this mental illness usually fail to realize they have it and believe they do not need the meds. Trust me, I know this ****. You want solid proof, go to webMD.com and input her symptoms as if they were your own, there's your answer. Seriously dude, this will not get better, but much much WORSE.
yeah its messed up, but this is what females do - she probably thought you were what she really wanted when she came back but she having second thoughts again, you have to tell her to make hre decision for good - so you can both get on with your lives
Sucks for you...





Im sorry - but maybe look for another girlfriend and let this one sort out her issues