Married woman who vents about hubby at work--what do you all think?

I have a married friend who has been with her husband nearly 20 years. She and her husband both hold professional positions. They seem to have the perfect marriage, perfect children and the perfect life—plus, well off financially and everything like that. But I found out recently that is not so true. She has been letting things slip about out at work about her marriage. She and I are both engineers and work in a very small firm. (She and her husband have been together since they were 18 and met in college). Several other people (including myself) have heard her discuss her husband’s love of amateur college porn, strip clubs, and weekend binge drinking with his rowdy friends. She also said that these problems had been going on for a while and that he rarely wants sex with her, but he has a very large porno collection (movies, magazines, etc). Her husband will also tell her that he is tired and that he would prefer if she would do “other stuff” for him. Her husband is overweight and so is she—but he still prefers amateur porn with college girls. I cannot believe that she is letting these details of her personal life out at work—especially because her husband frequently drops by at work to visit her and everyone knows him! She admitted that her husband would be upset with her if he knew about the things that she told people at work about their marriage.





I am just wondering why someone would do something like that? Personally, I wouldn’t talk about my marriage at work—no matter how many problems I was having. He is still her husband and she is betraying their marital trust by involving outsiders, instead of a meeting up with a marriage therapist! I am not defending him or her in this instance. I personally think that her husband is still acting out on his bachelor days gone by and is obviously NOT attracted to her sexually anymore. Why would he rather watch amateur college girls and not have sex with his own wife? I personally think he is probably two seconds away from cheating on her—if he already hasn’t done so. As for her, she really needs to seek therapy herself or get out of the marriage. Bring up their problems at work is really showing a lack of respect towards herself and their (obviously shaky) marriage. I just really feel bad for their 3 children.





I am just really tired of hearing her talk about this and can’t really vent too many people. Don’t be afraid to leave some honest feedback on this subject. Thanks!Married woman who vents about hubby at work--what do you all think?
It sounds like she doesn't have any friends that she can vent to. So, that's why she tells people at work. She is probably so fed up with her husband and at loss what to do about his behavior. Sounds like to me he is a sex addict and needs help.





My recommendation is to take her out to lunch one day and tell her that her remarks about her husband is making her look unprofessional in the office. This can cause repercussions down the road for her. Her boss or manager will think if she talks like this about her husband, what is she saying about me as a boss?Married woman who vents about hubby at work--what do you all think?
I only talk about this kind of thing with someone I consider a friend (even if I end up being incorrect.) I can't really imagine shouting this kind of thing from the rooftop. Sad.
I once worked with a woman that nagged about her hubby every damn day. I finally told her to shut the hell up. God she got on my nerves!
It would bother any man. She is betraying women by venting to MEN. women are supposed to vent to women, not men because men don't understand our ways. she is being stupid... i guess she's just working around too much testosterone is now diarrhea-venting on poor unsuspecting co-workers. she needs to have a girls night... bad