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Ok everyone is crying about Bill Belichamp cheating by useing cameras. Do you think he is a bad person for doing? I don't ,you ask why because look at Nascar how often do the drivers get caught cheating? I say its all in the game of sport if you can cheat and get away with good for you but once you get caught you should have to face up and pay what you have coming to you and don't cry about it you knew what you were doing was wrong...


Cheating will always be in every sport deal with it was not the first time and will not be the last time!!!WHO agrees PLEASE read!!!?
Hey Fred, guess the G. is for '; Got caught cheating ';. Stay cool and keep up the questions!WHO agrees PLEASE read!!!?
Just because there will always be cheating doesn't mean that the regulatory bodies shouldn't continue to monitor / punish it.
i agree cheating will always be apart of life and sports i think cheaters when caugh should be dealt with like baseball dealt with Pete Rose when he gambled yeah you guessed it no hall of fame i dont think championships should be taken or have asteriks if you didnt catch them at that time we as fans will always know i dont think that we should take things they have already earned/ gotten away with but they should be barred from the hall of fame and other things like that
Well in Nascar it's usually a violation of a ';grey area'; in the rule book and not and and out cheating situation.





But I think I'm with most when I ask about Belicheck.....';That is cheating?'; They filmed the other team which is facing them right across the field. They look right at them the whole game, but recording what they see is cheating? I think that is a weak way to call someone a cheater.





The last I saw they beat the living crap out of a damn good team in the Chargers, so I think the cheating thing didn't do much to help them. It may make them more dangerous now!!





That being said, I wish the Dolphins would cheat some more if it would make them better.
You are right, cheating is a fact of life in the sports world. He should own up to it, which he did.
I agree that cheating will always be part of any sport and I could really care less who does it, however I think just because a lot people cheat, that doesn't mean it is okay to cheat.





Look at the Pats case, I think bill made a huge mistake, and I still don't understand why. NE appears to have a good team with many advantages over most of NFL teams and I am really having hard team seeing what Bill was worried about.





He was selfish, he took a great risk in cheating. Getting caught and paying the fine is just the easy part, tarnishing NE legacy is much bigger. Ten years from now, whenever someone mentions NE and their run, you will hear the same question, did they cheat during every season. Which will be really unfair to the players, that why it is never okay to cheat.





I read over what you said again, I see what you are saying, I guess many people are over reacting to this. I don't care that he cheated because I am not a NE fan but I think it was dumb on his part he got so much at risk.


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i could give a ****, i just dig redd foxx so i had to answer
I just think he's a bad person.


BTW, I hear alot of people do crack and don't get caught, too. Is that why you fired up before this question? JK - it's a fair question and I'd defend my coach the same way. HOWEVER... my coach happens to be Dungy. Do you think you'd be singing the same tune if it was Dungy that got caught?
I'm all for gaining an advantage over your opponent. I wouldn't resort to cheating though. Hiring a person to film on your opponents sideline to feed your QB during game time what the defense is planning? Isn't that the reason you watch film of games of your up coming opponent? It was a tasteless decision of Belicheats part and let us not forget Tom Brady who took those calls in and changed the play at the last minute because of the defensive scheme.





P.S. ';I got me some bud nippers so I can nip me some buds.';





One of the greatest line in all of TV comedy if you ask me.





RIP Red Fox





What happens when the Patriots play the Broncos who have a defensive stat against the passing game of 97%? Do you think that Maroney can save them then?
Sure. Why dont we allow defensive backs to knock down the recievers instead of playing the ball? Why's there such a stupid rule of ';pass interference'; if the DB's job IS to interfere with the pass?! (if you don't know the answer than I give up on you.) Simply put: rules are rules, and they're there so there's fair play on both sides of the ball. If you get caught, there are consequenses.
I think he is a bad person, like Professor Moriarty, Sherlock Holmes antithesis. But also, you look like Red Fox from Sanford and son, and that's all that matters. Forget the cheater, Red Fox is the greatest and I miss him a lot.
he was cheating and that is wrong. it is a sad comment on your morals to think that it's okay if you get away with it. also what does it say for anyone who tries to say that their three Superbowl wins really mean anything. he knows how good they are as a team and the way he thought they could win was to cheat. sad
';will not be the last time'; said like a true Pats fan!


The problem I see with it is when you say everyone does it, where is the proof on that? You keep hearing Pats fan say that but there is no evidence of the other teams using technology to cheat their way to a win. They had actual proof of the Pats doing it. BTW, when ';Belichamp'; or Belicheater was with the Browns where are all their trophies? Did he not learn the cheating part til later when he realized he was nearing last chance as a Head Coach??

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I had a dream about my ex boyfriend what does that mean :/?

long story short i feel for a guy who liked me to and he all ways was firlting with me then he broke up with me cuz i found out he was cheating he moved away but anyways in my dream here is how it went:





i was writing something in my locker and he goes are you leaving your mark? and i go whats it to you and he goes cuz ill leave it 2. then he ask me if ellen was coming back ';btw thats his ex 2'; i said yea he goes oh crap u never saw me i go ok and then he push me up to my locker like old times and says check you later and smiles then as he is walking away he is still looking at me.





now i dont know if this is one of them dreams were the perosn is just there or if it happens to mean anything? even tho the jerk did wrong by cheating i kinda of miss him i mean he got me you know he could say something that would make me laugh even if other ppls thought it was lame . and he was just.. so differnt from every other guy. and still when i think about him i still smile???


help.I had a dream about my ex boyfriend what does that mean :/?
it means you had a dream about your ex boyfriend.I had a dream about my ex boyfriend what does that mean :/?
it means u still have feelings for him
you still have some old feelings for him....
You were thinking about him. Dreams usually have deeper meanings. If he cheated on you and you get back together, he may think that it is Ok to do it again.
Well, I suspect that you dreamed of him because you are not quite over him.





What your dream does not mean is that you should go back to him or call him up or anything like that. Everybody makes relationship mistakes, and everybody gets caught up in people who aren't right for them. But I hope that you will respect yourself and not go back to the creep. Although it's advice that is hard to adhere to, time will make you feel better and waiting out your painful feelings is the best thing to do.





Good luck. There is a guy out there for you-- you will care for him and he will treat you right!
it's proly just a dream that means you really like him still. it's a dream telling you the way he acted was wrong, %26amp;%26amp; he's proly dreamin that too. but anywho ask him wat he thinks about the dream %26amp;%26amp; maybe even though it's wrong everybody deserves another chance
you are in love, try to get him back
? Probably means you still have a thing for him. maybe you should look it up in a dream book
You were probably thinking about him before you went to sleep.
It means you had a dream about your ex-boyfriend. It also means you are putting WAY too much thought and significance into this guy. Your looking to verify what you want ...and grabbing at straws to do it. Sorry

How to know if your husband is cheating on you?

I have instincts even before that he is cheating on me but never caught him in the act. Help me how to caught him. He's really good in making lies and excuses. I feel really dumb and stupid that he always gets away with it easily. I really want to call it quits but I dont know if Im doing the right thing.How to know if your husband is cheating on you?
I am in the SAMMMMMME BOAT!!!! My husband could be bangin someone and like the song ';saw me on the sofa...it wasn't me';





Look, I think the BEST way is to get HARDCORE proof. Bust his lies out into the open. Thats the ONLY way or else you will end up like me KNOWING something is wrong and literally going INSANE because he justifies and lies!!! Its not healthy! Get your hardcore proof for your sanity and move the ';F'; on. We don't need that stress!How to know if your husband is cheating on you?
If you really feel in your gut that he is, and you cannot afford a PI, do it yourself. Rent a car, buy a wig and follow him. But if you are simply a jealous type of person you are goiing to wind up pushing him away. You can call that show Cheaters too.
You really can't accuse or confront him unless you have valid proof...


I wouldn't worry about it too much or overanalyze anything considering you lack evidence.





And if you don't trust him then there's a problem in communication or just your overall relationship.
When you do find out.


Have yourself check for VDs





To me.


Cheating is a deal breaker. We would be done.


No second chances. The papers will be arriving soon.
how can you even be sure of anything you are even saying, i think you are being paranoid. you say he lies but have never catch him in a lie ??????

Why do women steal men away?? Why da man dat i love?? How can i stop him cheating on me???

It all started with his trip to china in april, i had been with him for 5 years at then.


I felt things and dreamt about it whn he was away, n when i used to call him then, he used to either hang up in 30 sec or just tell me not to bug him as he was ina meeting..


when he came back, i felt a tremendous change and coldness in his touch.. later i found out from his laptop tht he had been sleeping with an escort (dat's da new word for w'ores) for 12 days!!


Now we call ourselves as friends, and were doing fine lately, but he still dissapears from his contact with me when he's in china...it's been 6 days since he is there. I knw dat chinese escort's number and if i wasnt working, i would just hv gone there, but today i feel doing all these is getting against my dignity...yet i can't keep my mind away, can't focus on work, dont talk much at home...i dont knw, it's killing..


Why does it happen? i had given him everything! Pls dont cm up with an answer ';Move On'; or ';Hv Guts';..HELP ME SIS.Why do women steal men away?? Why da man dat i love?? How can i stop him cheating on me???
Why are you blaming the escort? Your boyfriend chose to cheat on you. It was his choice. You should be blaming him. So, don't call the escort, talk to him.


I hate to tell you this, but you do need to move on. For one, think of your physical health. If he is having unprotected sex, you could contract an STD or HIV. Is he worth your life?


Right now, it does not appear that he has any remorse for what he has done. He also does not seem to want to change this behavior and will continue to hurt you over and over again. I know it is difficult to consider since you have been together for so long, but you need to look at your priorities and his. Do you think you need to be treated like this?Why do women steal men away?? Why da man dat i love?? How can i stop him cheating on me???
Sometimes lust is too powerful to ignore even though the person still loves youo and that's why cheating happens..





But almost 99% of the time, a person cheats because they don't love and respect the person they are with. If he loved you, he wouldn't have done it. There's no two ways about it. He could have kept his desire in check if he really wanted to.





You can't stop him from cheating, and you don't deserve to have someone you give your heart to and get treated like that in return.
Are you all married? If not, think about it - do you want to live this way the rest of your life? He doesn't have any respect for you if he's cheating on you. He's lying to you about this so does he have any integrity?





If you're married - you need marriage counseling.





If you're truly determined to stay with this person, then you're going to have to come to a point where you accept that he is not faithful and all of the feelings that go with that. It's rare that a person changes their colors.
Sadly women can't steal men away from another woman. Men go of their own accord, cause if there was real love and respect cheating on you never would've even been considered. You have to realize that kind of relationship is toxic and it's already starting to effect you, you have to ask yourself is this kind of relationship worth your dying mentally and maybe even physically? Remember a bad man is not worth crying over, a good one is but if he's good he'll never make you cry.
These women are not stealing him! They are providing a service for money, and neither know nor care if he is partnered or not. I don't think its fair to say hes 'cheating' on you either, if he is so determindly going after other women I don't think he considers himself to be in a real relationship, you're just an additional extra in his life.
women steal men away because its them practicing sexual immorality. men letthem do it..cause they're practicing the same thing..just remember when something happpens to you its not your fault always...and your life is too short to continue in sadness..just move on.
down deep past the hurt you know all the answers sis. BUT----it doesn't mean you weren't good to him or good for him.





it happens because life is not fair, the heart and the head don't always agree, because people want different things...


he's moved on and left you behind. it hurts. five years is a long time.





but if you do a couple of things, you'll be fine eventually. i call them the three P's. Pity/Prepare/Present





Pity: throw yourself a pity party and allow yourself to cry, scream, curse the unfairness.





Prepare: pick up your dignity when the party is over, tuck your heart somewhere safe and hidden and focus on you. on things that make you happy.





Present: when you feel strong enough, take another chance.





if it doesn't work out, go back to number one and repeat as often as necessary. life rewards those who are truly alive, who are happy, who are willing to take a chance.





he may never know what he gave up, but you'll be able to use what you learned from being with him to make your life better in the future. and that sis, is why women live longer than men...:)

How can i forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me over a year ago?

Just 2 weeks after my boyfriend and i started dating, i went away for a week for christmas. During that time he cheated on me, with two girls. It has been over a year now and i still feel like I cant trust him at parties without me. Am I doing the right thing by going with him, or do i just need to forget about it? I know that he would never do that to me now as we plan on getting married, but i just need some advice. thanksHow can i forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me over a year ago?
OK... listen up. Do not forget nor forgive him. Come ON!!! Don't have low self esteem, I'm trying to be NICE!!! U gota tell him it's over. And if you dont, your gona be in hell for a long, long time. Trust me, I know. My feyonce raped my best friend.How can i forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me over a year ago?
Marriage? Congratulations. Anyways, marriage if a very big deal. You should make him pay for everything just in case he does cheat on you.
It's been a year and you haven't let it go .... You're never going to let go of the betrayal . Do yourself a favor and move on.


BTW , just because you're engaged doesn't mean he'll never cheat again .
BOOM!dump his punk ***
by breaking up with him. that's the only way to let go of the poison you feel inside.
he cheated on you twice and your marrying this dude?? you are some piece of work.
Forgive!? wow ........ I suppose you will have to learn things the hard way.





'; I know that he would never do that to me now as we plan on getting married ';





I knew a BEAUTIFUL decent woman who had a very hard time because her husband cheated on her and she had a divorve. They also had 2 twin daughters......... lesson: make sure you do life-changing decisions such as marriage and kids with the right person period
You are lying to yourself. You don't ';know'; if he wouldn't do that to you now and you aren't over the past because presently, there is no trust. You have not genuinely forgiven him and you want to carry this into a marriage?! That leads to resentment and that leads to divorce. Move on.
You have to think using your brain, not heart. Are you really really sure about planning your future with him? Because you can't married to someone whom you don't trust. This can't-trust-him thing will haunt you down forever. And i think it's bad for the both of you.





Well, good luck!
did he explain the reason for the two girls? give him a chance to apology
ok,,,, let me sell you some swamp land... damnnnnnnnnnnnnn What does it take nowadays , for a girl to know she's with a piece of crap?? What all does he have to do, until you use your brain and say, ';hell with that, I am better than that';? Kick his *** over the curb... I have to to give it to him, he's playing you girl, and you're letting him... He WILL do it to you, married or not

How should I interpret my boyfriends behavior towards other women?

My boyfriend is very fun loving out going person. This tends to stir up some jealousy when he is (I think) too outgoing or overly engaged in a conversation with another woman. Also, if an attractive or sometimes not even very attractive woman walks by or is in our presence he will blatantly stare her down or try to make eye contact. Also, I've noticed that he never introduces me as his girlfriend. He gets off the hook by just saying my name. ';This is Paula'; for example, and the girl usually stairs at me like ';Ooookay, some random chick named Paula鈥?quot; Other than these issues, he and I are best friends! We have a wonderful close-knit relationship and I sincerely do trust him not to cheat on me, but these issues cause me to feel very insecure about myself and what he might be doing when I'm not around. Especially since I am now pregnant with his child and starting to lose my figure. I have expressed to him my feelings and sometimes hurt when he does this. His response is that he is a nice out going person and treats both men and woman the same. I've never seen him stare a man down that way or try to be witty in just the presence of a man but ok! I also, think there is an obvious difference between a casual conversation between two people and flirting. Body language, intense eye contact, leaning in towards one another etc... I think if he were to walk into a room and spot me talking to another man like this giggling away, then introduce him just by his name minus the status, he would be upset or hurt and understand what this feels like.





Side point: Not to toot my own horn but I am a lovely attractive young lady, 24 years old and extremely loving and loyal to him. I'm very attracted to him but he is getting up in age (42 years old) losing some hair which doesn't bother me at all but I would think he would realize how lucky he is to have me in his life. (So toot!) He is a very attractive older man but the young girls that he stares at are not exactly staring back if you get my drift. What to do???How should I interpret my boyfriends behavior towards other women?
Talk to him about it and work it out. If it bothers you, let him know!How should I interpret my boyfriends behavior towards other women?
Get rid of him. Hes only interested in young women and you are just one of the young women. He is a pathetic old man who doesnt want to be the age that he is. Try flirting with young men in front of him if you like, but personally I would ditch the loser.
I don't know that I'd be so dismissive of his ability to attract younger women. He managed to reel you in somehow, didn't he?





That said, if you honestly don't think the flirting's going to go anywhere, then maybe you're best off just plastering a huge smile on your face when he introduces you and saying ';Hi, I'm X's girlfriend. Nice to meet you.'; Or heck, go ahead and see how he reacts if you try it. Maybe he'll recognize how it feels, or maybe he truly won't care.
if a guy introduce you by name and not title your just a play thing to him . he is being very disrespectful and YOU need to speak up when he introduce you by name he knows your insecure at times and won't step up to him . your having his kid stop with the shy b.s. don't let him introduce you by name and you need to embarrass his butt so he stops doing it. don't ask him to stop you stop the b.s for him
Look, I really hate to say this but I dated someone your age and I'm your bf's age. We had nothing to say to each other after awhile and I was bored with someone that young. He could never give me what I wanted in a relationship because of that.


I don't think your guy is serious about you, pregnant or not. Maybe you are very pretty but he wants a more in-depth conversation with someone. I'm not saying you are dumb but looks are not everything. I'm saying your life experience and his (because of age) do not match up. That's why relationships with age differences that much don't usually work out. It has nothing to do with sex or how pretty someone else is. It's just nicer to have someone who you can relate to.


People my age and your bf's age tend to talk to people a lot because we have enough confidence in life that we don't usually worry what the bf or gf think. He may not care how much you talk to anyone else or how you introduce him. He may introduce you as ';Paula'; because he doesn't think of you as his girlfriend in ';that way.'; You said you talked about it and it sounds like he blew off your feelings. That's a shame. Good luck. I hope once the baby is here he turns around.

Top 10 reasons why men cheat?

I just ran across this link, and I wanted to see if any of you agree.. I DON'T but thats just me. I think there is always a cop out for men that cheat, as if it is our fault they do it. Well I think some one should write a similar list on a womans behalf.





Any way, here it goes:





Here Are the Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat:





1. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.





2. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.





3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him who loves football or plays golf. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.





4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.





5. They have fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.





6. Your sex life stinks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.





7. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old-fashioned sex?





8. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.





9. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.





10. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.


Top 10 reasons why men cheat?
This list sounds like a bunch of reasons guys ';okay'; the process of cheating. I do not agree with any of their points, it puts all the fault on women and none on the men!





On a side note, I could put up a similar list of 1239283492394234234 reasons why women cheat :)Top 10 reasons why men cheat?
Top 10 reasons why men cheat








hang on why do women cheat as well???








if the man is cheating then some elses partner is also cheating
All those reasons apply.





The only part I do not agree with is why only 10 top reasons?





At the end, any reason is a TOP when guys cheat.






Sounds to me like the top 10 reasons that a man has indicated are THEIR reasons to cheat. So just maybe these are considered to be THEIR top 10.
11. Your wife lets you and gives you permission. Because she wants for her husband to be the happiest man on the planet.
I think men want to be appreciated as much as women. Have someone to talk to as well.
I think they do it because their horny--and dogs! Bow Wow! ...lol!





Guess I can laugh about it because I've lived it!
What better the old pzzy? New pzzy! that why men cheat
I agree with the reasons, these are real sources of infidelity. I disagree with the idea its the woman's fault. The pure act of cheating is his fault. For my cheating husband it was #2 and #6. I can fix #6 but he needs help with #2.
Sounds like these 10 reasons were written by a woman, a woman full of hatred for men.





On the other hand, a man full of hatred for women, could support those 10 reasons as well.


Women cheat as well.





Reality is this : On a relationship that goes bad, BOTH partners have an equal blame for that.


So... the one that cheats is the one that has the opportunity to do so and create a temporary escape from their problems.


Simple as that.





Everything else is pure rubbish IMHO.






I have never had an affair but I know a lot of people that had affairs. I think that number two is true for most people that have affairs - men or women. I know someone that actually said they loved ';the chase.'; After the chase is over they are ready to be with someone new.





I also know people had affairs because they wanted to be with someone new, exciting and younger.





Most people I know who have cheated are very insecure and looking for their identity in another person. Their self esteem is usually rock bottom. An affair might give an ego boost but it seems to be temporary. The same issues that broke up old relationships usually go into new relationships.

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Men who cheat, how do you get away with it?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, everyone hates a cheater, but I've been cheated on and I don't care. My question is for anyone reading this who actively cheats on their gf or spouse. How do you get away with it without being caught? I would like to be a cheating padawan. Teach me the art of deception. I have many questions like, what do you tell your mistress when she wants to see your place and you've got a wife and kid there? Is it better that she know your situation, or should you keep both women in the dark? What are some ways to do this? I need details, so feel free to share stories.





And for everyone with something negative to say, just remember, you don't know me or my life so if you don't have anything constructive to add, keep it to yourself. I was once a good dude, but being a good guy does nothing because everyone does dirt and I want to do a little of my own. As a matter of fact if any ladies reading are interested and live near georgia, feel free to email me!





Peace...Men who cheat, how do you get away with it?
Listen up mate, you're in luck...........its not called cheating because women aren't MY possesions. No, cheating is the wrong word....


Anyway to make a short story long, I just buy them pints and go to clubs and bars where my chick ain't there......its the American way!Men who cheat, how do you get away with it?
No i dont know you, or whats going on in your life. But i feel sorry any girl who dates you, loves you and then gets cheated on.


Your a pr*ck. And for the guy up the top.. Im australian and your comment has made me hate the american males even more than i already do.
I can tell you that cheating will always become known to the other person no matter how well you hide it...
your sick and will grow old and alone,good luck stud muffin and remember your protection

Why does Italy continue to get away with Diving?

Italy continued to demonstrate the proper technique for diving as they fell down left and right on the pitch today against France. Not only did they dive, but they drew a Red Card, PK after they where off-sides.





Why or how does FIFA allow Italy to get away with such ugly soccer?





When will FIFA do something to stop the cheating of Italy?Why does Italy continue to get away with Diving?
Italy pays FIFA :)Why does Italy continue to get away with Diving?
ummm well ask the same question to France they do it all the frigging time did it today at the game try to get a penalty also in the game against Ecuador and also the game against Portugal only reason they win is because of the penalty the get what fifa should be doing is firing some ref or at least getting them some f-ing glasses and do don't be a sore loser France lost if they were that great of a team they would have beaten Romania and Holland and Italy with or without the penalty

I have been in a relatonship for five years. I have gotten cheated on more than twice. why do keep cheating.?

For one thing he aint doing **** for his self. Im a good girl and I dont understand why he cant see that im worth being faithful to. I'm not ugly and I'm in school. I can help him out in his goals. Why he cheats then beg to be right back with me. And if he feel like he needs to be single then so be it. I will let him go. But he says he sorry and say he want to be in a relationship with me. My friends think im stupid. But I love him. Its hard to walk away from him. I never cheated on him. I try to be the best understanding girlfriend I can be. WHY CANT HE LOVE ME AND NOT CHEAT. hE DONT UNDERSTANDS ITS ALOT Of diesease out here. Why is it so hard to let him go. I dont want to see him with nobody else and he dont want to see me with nobody else. but if he not happy or I how can we make it work. He have put me through alot of drama. When i only been a good girl trying to go to school. I dont want to leave him behind but what choice do I have. I have taken the blows thrown at me.I have been in a relatonship for five years. I have gotten cheated on more than twice. why do keep cheating.?
Maybe he cheats b/c he's not worried about losing anything. By now, he has most likely figured out that he can cheat and you will still let it slide.





You say you don't want to see him with anybody else...it doesn't really look like you're getting your wish there since he seems to cheat repeatedly.





...also that he doesn't want to see you with anybody else either. I don't think he's really worried about that. I think you're like a safety net to him. He knows you will always be there for him to fall back on.





Give it some thought - do you want to live like this for the rest of your life?I have been in a relatonship for five years. I have gotten cheated on more than twice. why do keep cheating.?
Once a cheater always a cheater. It's not you it's him. Move on. It sucks, I know, I'm in the same position right now. Easier said than done. lol
like i said to another person....





fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me








it was your fault for continuing the relationship after you learned he cheated, you're weak... you need to love yourself enough to tell someone that hurts and cheats on you that they need to get out of your life
you need to respect yourself before anyone can or will respect you. you are being a door mat because you dont care about yourself or you want people to feel sorry for you. grow a back bone!
he's cheating cause you're letting him get away with it.


you don't deserve it, at all..


as hard as it is, you need to let him go..


that's not fair and if you let it go on like this you're going to end up hurting more than if you were to just walk away from him..


you'll heal in time, trust me..


but for now.. say goodbye, chill with your girlies and try your best to forget his a$$
If you want to stay with him, don't ask him about cheating because either way its gonna hurt. He's not ready to commit, but I'm sure he really does love you, but why do you love someone that does that? Really think about why you love him, is it because you wanna be in love or is it really HIM you love..good luck girl, we all go through it more then once so don't get down on yourself.
you need help he stays because he can you let him duh..and the pain and the cheating will never stop till you leave him
Dump him! But, the answer to your question is...he keeps cheating on you because he has gotten away with it 5 times.
he treats you like crap, just leave him behind, you deserve so much more.
cheaters are cheaters are cheaters... you can't change him... and he will cheat on his next girlfriend, his future wife, and then on his mistress.... he IS a cheater. You have to set the standard for yourself... if you don't want to tolerate cheating, don't. Break up with him and if any future boyfriend cheats on you, break it off with him too. Let anyone you are dating that you have a ZERO tolerance policy for cheating... kissing and emotional affairs included in that category.... then find yourself someone with the same values. Guys who cheat can smell a woman who tolerates it for miles. You have to get rid of that scent.
The question is not why is he cheating on you, it's ';why are you still with him';? This is the true question. I don't know how old you are, but you need to take care of yourself first. You say you are in school - well, way to go. Stay in school, graduate, find a job you like and then look for someone to share your life with. Like someone once said ';patience is a virtue';. Good Luck. :)
LET HIM GO! Your life is not worth it...cause when he does catch a diease...you gonna end up in the hospital...No matter how much he apologizes, once a cheater, ALWAYS A CHEATER! Leave him! If you had a daughter, would you want your daughter treated the way you are? Sorry, but you are making a fool of yourself from his ignorance...just leave his azz.
nobody can tell you what to do, me personally, i would forgive once ... as far a a second time, i guess it would depend on the circumstances and just how bad it really was ... just a kiss or sex? if it was sex, i would make myself let him go. that is just too far and there is no excuse. i know it will hurt but you really do deserve better and you know that. you're not stupid at all -- you have been w/him for a long time and leaving someone you love is hard even when they hurt you. if you are determined to stay with him, make him get couples counseling. if you can figure out WHY he does it, maybe he can stop and it will help heal your relationship.

I get cravings, but he lives far away, and i dont wanna cheat?!?

hey, im a highschool kid who has a college boyfriend. everyone at school talks about sex 24/7. but im not the type that would talk about sex to everyone and anyone. it seems like to get in with the crowd is to talk about sex. dont get me wrong i had sex before. but i had sex because i love the guy. my friends had sex just to lose it and fit in. now that my boyfriend is off at college i been getting cravings. i told this to a friend and he offer to be friends with benfits. i know its wrong. how can i stop getting pressured by my peers? and how do i control my cravings? i dont wanna cheat. plus sometimes when i hear people talk about sex, it gets on my nerves because they dont know what they are talking about.. how do i control myself?I get cravings, but he lives far away, and i dont wanna cheat?!?
Don't worry about cheating on him he may be cheating on you already but won't tell you. College kids are like that. Sex is available every where.





You two aren't officially engaged or married so it really isn't cheating anyway. When you get the urges go find one of your friends and have at it. They are normally referred to as ';f*** buddies';. no commitment just sex for pleasure.





Remember this little saying, it is one my wife and I live by: ';Sex washes off; love lasts forever.'; We have a good marriage and open relationships with others. Sex is not a sin as the Christian anti sex people claim. It is meant to be enjoyed and good for your health. Depriving your self can lead to complications especially since you have already had sex. Just use protection and try to choose partners who have regular STD checks.I get cravings, but he lives far away, and i dont wanna cheat?!?
If you are a high school kid who has a college boyfriend is that considered statutory rape?





I think you should focus your mind on school and not on sex. There is more to life than sex. As you get older, it will not matter much..


Trust me.





If you have urges I suggest that you take Pink's advise, and you know what song I am talking about.
Blow-up doll.
I suggest cold showers.
Well if you're getting cravings...there's a sex toy called the rabbit.





I bought it for my wife whenever I have to go on the road...she loves me even more, because it definitely satisfies her...maybe more than I can, but I do what I have to.





Use this toy and you will be craving-free.





peace
Just control yourself and you will gain will power also, its better for you.
call your boyfriend and have phone sex it may be a little wierd at first but if you both get into it at least you won't need to cheat but hes probally cheating on you now as you sit here typing cause hes at collage have you ever been there tons of really hot drunk horney girls
I was once in a long distance relationship too, good for you for not wanting to cheat, especially with the temptation right there, if you are getting ';cravings'; that badly, I know it may sound perverted, but get yourself a toy...Spencer's gifts has a wonderful supply


also, a great way to keep in touch with your man - web-cam and microphones, it's like he's right there, only not...
Tell your b/f that you need to get together more often


or your relationship is not going to last...
Go ahead and get some. I'm sure he's not holding out. If you're having cravings, it means that you have a natural desire for it. It's not wrong in anyway. That's the way god made you. If you can't trust god, what can you trust?
The answer starts with BZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ and ends with ooooohhhh lala.
Take a lot of cold showers or something but whatever you do don't act on those impulses. I know you may be craving but it can't be that bad. Not to be vulger or anything but I heard that masterbating will help you ease the craving. Just call your man up for a little phone sex he'll like that.
yahoo messenger and a web cam. phone sex for the modern ages.
get some toys and lots of batteries!!
NEVER cheat on a man you love. In the end it will only hurt you. If you dont tell him the guilt will eat u up and if you do it will destroy your relationship. Talking about sex is always going to happen, u think kids in college don't talk about sex too!!??? Your boyfriend is under the same pressures and the truth is that guys get urges more than girls, so I think that if he loves you and respects you enough to say no to peer pressure and to temptation, you should do the same for him. Thats if you truley love him and want a long relationship with him. If not than breakup with him and enjoy the single life. As for your friend that offered to be friends with benifits, that is a really sleezy move. A true friend would understand that you are under pressure and devestated and try to encourage you to do the right thing, not offer to sleep with you. Plus any guy will say that they'd ';comfort'; you, but you gotta do the right thing. Also, your boyfriend and you have problably had a lot of time to get to know each other and to know if either of you has any stds. With this new guy your not so safe. So the point being, if you love the guy, then respect him. If you don't, leave him and just make sure you don't catch anything from anyone.


-Good luck deciding





:)
Just think about the consequences of your actions before you do them. That is all.
And just what do you think your college boyfriend is doing about *his* cravings?





College boy/girlfriends are rarely faithful to their high school girl/boyfriends when they are in a long distance relationship.








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You claim your bf is faithful, it's possible (though as I said extremely rare.) Ask him how he deals with his cravings.

How can I make my relationship with my finace better? He trust me completely, but I still can't trust him.

We have been dating for a year and a half now and when we first started dating, he was still not over his ex and cheated on me with her. Even though it was a year and a half later, I still have a problem trusting him. It comes from every realtionship that I have had, the guy ALWAYS cheated on me. I explained that it is something that won't go away overnight and that it would take sometime fot it to go away. We fight everyday over stupid stuff. I feel like I am in a one sided relationship. I have to plan everything, he isn't a romantic what so ever. He got fired from his job 2 weeks ago and hasn't done anything to find a new one. Man, the more I do this, the more I realize he isn't for me, but I love him and his family like they were my own. Someone help!!!How can I make my relationship with my finace better? He trust me completely, but I still can't trust him.
you haven't gotten over what he is done and when somebody does somethig to betray your trust you find it hard to forget...you really do have to evaluate if this is the man you want to marry. If he sin't making the extra effort to help you get over the trust issued he himself has created in you then he isn't worth it.How can I make my relationship with my finace better? He trust me completely, but I still can't trust him.
u need to figure this one out for your self but listen to your heart ....before you tell him goodbye lol
pray

I get cravings, but he lives far away, and i dont wanna cheat?!?

hey, im a highschool kid who has a college boyfriend. everyone at school talks about sex 24/7. but im not the type that would talk about sex to everyone and anyone. it seems like to get in with the crowd is to talk about sex. dont get me wrong i had sex before. but i had sex because i love the guy. my friends had sex just to lose it and fit in. now that my boyfriend is off at college i been getting cravings. i told this to a friend and he offer to be friends with benfits. i know its wrong. how can i stop getting pressured by my peers? and how do i control my cravings? i dont wanna cheat. plus sometimes when i hear people talk about sex, it gets on my nerves because they dont know what they are talking about.. how do i control myself?I get cravings, but he lives far away, and i dont wanna cheat?!?
Don't worry about cheating on him he may be cheating on you already but won't tell you. College kids are like that. Sex is available every where.





You two aren't officially engaged or married so it really isn't cheating anyway. When you get the urges go find one of your friends and have at it. They are normally referred to as ';f*** buddies';. no commitment just sex for pleasure.





Remember this little saying, it is one my wife and I live by: ';Sex washes off; love lasts forever.'; We have a good marriage and open relationships with others. Sex is not a sin as the Christian anti sex people claim. It is meant to be enjoyed and good for your health. Depriving your self can lead to complications especially since you have already had sex. Just use protection and try to choose partners who have regular STD checks.I get cravings, but he lives far away, and i dont wanna cheat?!?
If you are a high school kid who has a college boyfriend is that considered statutory rape?





I think you should focus your mind on school and not on sex. There is more to life than sex. As you get older, it will not matter much..


Trust me.





If you have urges I suggest that you take Pink's advise, and you know what song I am talking about.
Blow-up doll.
I suggest cold showers.
Well if you're getting cravings...there's a sex toy called the rabbit.





I bought it for my wife whenever I have to go on the road...she loves me even more, because it definitely satisfies her...maybe more than I can, but I do what I have to.





Use this toy and you will be craving-free.





peace
Just control yourself and you will gain will power also, its better for you.
call your boyfriend and have phone sex it may be a little wierd at first but if you both get into it at least you won't need to cheat but hes probally cheating on you now as you sit here typing cause hes at collage have you ever been there tons of really hot drunk horney girls
I was once in a long distance relationship too, good for you for not wanting to cheat, especially with the temptation right there, if you are getting ';cravings'; that badly, I know it may sound perverted, but get yourself a toy...Spencer's gifts has a wonderful supply


also, a great way to keep in touch with your man - web-cam and microphones, it's like he's right there, only not...
Tell your b/f that you need to get together more often


or your relationship is not going to last...
Go ahead and get some. I'm sure he's not holding out. If you're having cravings, it means that you have a natural desire for it. It's not wrong in anyway. That's the way god made you. If you can't trust god, what can you trust?
The answer starts with BZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ and ends with ooooohhhh lala.
Take a lot of cold showers or something but whatever you do don't act on those impulses. I know you may be craving but it can't be that bad. Not to be vulger or anything but I heard that masterbating will help you ease the craving. Just call your man up for a little phone sex he'll like that.
yahoo messenger and a web cam. phone sex for the modern ages.
get some toys and lots of batteries!!
NEVER cheat on a man you love. In the end it will only hurt you. If you dont tell him the guilt will eat u up and if you do it will destroy your relationship. Talking about sex is always going to happen, u think kids in college don't talk about sex too!!??? Your boyfriend is under the same pressures and the truth is that guys get urges more than girls, so I think that if he loves you and respects you enough to say no to peer pressure and to temptation, you should do the same for him. Thats if you truley love him and want a long relationship with him. If not than breakup with him and enjoy the single life. As for your friend that offered to be friends with benifits, that is a really sleezy move. A true friend would understand that you are under pressure and devestated and try to encourage you to do the right thing, not offer to sleep with you. Plus any guy will say that they'd ';comfort'; you, but you gotta do the right thing. Also, your boyfriend and you have problably had a lot of time to get to know each other and to know if either of you has any stds. With this new guy your not so safe. So the point being, if you love the guy, then respect him. If you don't, leave him and just make sure you don't catch anything from anyone.


-Good luck deciding





:)
Just think about the consequences of your actions before you do them. That is all.
And just what do you think your college boyfriend is doing about *his* cravings?





College boy/girlfriends are rarely faithful to their high school girl/boyfriends when they are in a long distance relationship.








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You claim your bf is faithful, it's possible (though as I said extremely rare.) Ask him how he deals with his cravings.

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Reposted - need more - my first - he cheated on her with me - is there a positive in all this? moving on...

So I've been getting responses here about a guy I slept with years ago (yes I still have issues with it - not sure why) and I've been basically holding on to reassurance that since he was cheating on his partner at the time (now his wife), then their relationship must be bad and he is a bad person.





This, I have learnt is not true. I have learned that men are not monogamous. He saw an opportunity to cheat and get away with it so he took it. I was unaware of the g/f and ended it when I found out. He obviously loved/s the gf/wife, he cares for her, he married her. Men can 'compartmentalize' mentally - so the cheating meant NOTHING to him. I was stupid enough to think sleeping with him just might lead to some legitimate dating (yes I KNOW how silly I was now!). And I got hurt. When he cheated with me he had just had a child with the girl and I learned that this life event, especially when young (he was 27 at the time) can lead to cheating. So I understand what it was about now but I am even more HURT! He just used me - he thought nothing of me/it - he didn't care at all, ever. He had/has all the good things in his life and the wife never found out. He'll never 'pay'. I never told the gf/wife as I didn't know her and was too embarrassed - and of course I'd never go back and tell her now. He just got away clean - and he is reaping the benefits of it now still probably, It probably made him a better husband, - by getting away with it once and possibly deciding to settle down properly after that.





What I am saying is that all the theory fits in - and now that I understand it, it hurst more as there was absolutely no benefit in it for me - and sex and possibly a greater appreciation of what he has for him.





Is there anything you can see above that we could turn into a positive for me to salvage some dignity/positivity from?





I;ll add that it was mostly hope/silliness on my part - he never told me he loved me or promised me anything..........





I'd doubt he still cheats as they live in a small town close to family and friends - I doubt he would be that silly now they are married etc = just a guess as I saw them once and they looked happy.......Reposted - need more - my first - he cheated on her with me - is there a positive in all this? moving on...
Hey Hollie,


Not all men cheat. In fact the majority of us do not. It is that other group who has the lack of conscience that allows them to attempt more than one relationship at a time.


Please do not paint us all with the same black brush that many of those at YA do. The majority of responders have their own crosses to bear and you will hear more from them than the ones who are satisfied with thier condition.





Many, many men are filled with happiness that a woman would love them. They are not interested in the chase, the conquest or any of that other crap that the unfaithful practice.





your problem becomes that you fell for just that crap and gave yourself to a person who was not worthy of your affection.


Quit beating yourself up over this.


You are running the risk of becoming an extreemly unhappy, morose person.





You really need to find a way to quit worrying about him. There is no benefit in understanding his motivation except to be able to recognise this behavior pattern in the future.


You really need to take a step back and view your feelings toward him and think how nice it would be if your guy returned those same feelings. This is the guy you need to think about and where to find him.





As for dignity, that is another term for pride. I fear we spend far to much emotional energy on that attitude.





It can be a good thing to view this experience as just that, experience. It has become part of you now and will lead you to making sure you do not give yourself to someone in future unless they can show that they are available and want to have that relationship with you.





As for virginity it is a highly overrated condition which is far better taken care of long before you decide who your life partner will be.


I've always felt the voluntary choice with something to compare against was more important than the fact that you have been with someone else. Presumably that causes doubts later about the person who needs that lack of comparison. Virginity was a lot more about property and heratage than it was some moral purpose.





It may be past time to put the sexuality in the catagory of a fond memory and him in the category of a jerk that you are sorry you met, AND THEN move on.





Your case is not special, nor is it uncommon. Your obsessing like this is not a good thing. You are hurt but it is not the end of the world unless you make it be.


Perhaps you should consider some counselling.





Your conclusions about the state of men are not correct. These thoughts about all men cheating are based on too small a sample.


Many many of us do not cheat and do not use their partners.


You need to get your head out of the world of men who do and attempt to find one who does not.Reposted - need more - my first - he cheated on her with me - is there a positive in all this? moving on...
We're you aware that time that he was cheating With you?? Then Shame on YOu!!.. So dont expect something positive from that!
next time get to know the person well befor you take it to the sex level.
Jesus Christ get your self some counseling.
I am SO sorry. It must be agonizing.


but there are positives. it may take a while for you to see them.





1) you learned from this that some guys are like that. you will be more careful, more cautious in the future.





2) because of this experience you will be able to tell your friends when they are about to get into this situation - you can help keep them from going through what you are going through. and your words will carry power because you have been there.





3) you have learned that in the area of sex, men just don't think the same way as women. this is useful to know.








But i have to disagree on 2 points - i seriously doubt that cheating made him a better husband. And i can not accept that a man cheating on his pregnant wife is all that good a guy. He had a choice. His choice doesn't make him the most evil man in the world, but that is not the sort of thing a good husband does.
You are still so hung up on something that happened years ago that you need to 'salvage some dignity'? Get thee to a counselor, woman, and get a life. Your case is way beyond our ability to do anything for you.
one a cheater they wil always cheat if he sept with you there would be other girls too baby girl
I think you might be harboring just a tad of resentment, not only towards him, but towards yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. I don't want to comment why he did this to you, because he will look like a player and you will look like the played. But to resent the fact that he has moved on and you haven't is your own fault. Years ago is a long time. Think of it this way...You slept with a guy and it turned out to be nothing. BUT, hopefully, you learned a lesson and will never do it again. I believe bad things happen to us sometimes to change the course of our lives, so we can save ourselves from traveling down the wrong road and stop bad behavior. Let go of the past. Pray. Ask for forgiveness. But move on.
The positive is that you now have an insight as to how men think and behave. You wont be taken for such a fool a second time. The thing that worries me though - this happened years ago, so why haven't you moved on in the meantime? It sounds like it's become an obsession. If you want the truth, then everybody gets used at some stage in their lives - you're not the only one. You just have to chalk it up to experience and move on.

Cheating??

I also have another problem..I've been going out with my current boyfriend for 5 1/2 years and I still don't completely trust him. I had a boyfriend prior to him that cheated on me and broke my heart. My current boyfriend has said to me, ';I'm not like him, I would never do anything to hurt you';, but whenever we're together he always has his cell phone off and it drives me crazy. Sometimes I think I'm being paranoid because I don't want to be be hurt as badly as I was before. When I ask him why he always has his phone off, he says too many people call him and it gets annoying. I don't want to push my current boyfriend away because of my insecurities. Do you think men actually tell the truth when they say they are not cheating on you and never would?? I also think he might be getting sick of me always questioning him...I don't know how to trust him. I really want to stop, but I want to be sure he is actually faithful. What are signs of a cheater?Please help!!Cheating??
WELL, BABY DOLL, IF YOU'VE BEEN DATING THIS MAN FOR 5 1/2 YRS AND ARE STILL QUESTIONING HIM BEING FAITHFUL TO YOU, THEN YOU HAVE A SERIOUS PROBLEM. EITHER YOU TRUST HIM OR YOU DON'T. YOU CAN'T CONTINUE TO MAKE HIM PAY FOR THE MISTAKES OF THE PAST IDIOT...IT WILL DEFINITELY PUSH HIM AWAY.





YES, I THINK THAT MOST MEN ACTUALLY DO TRY TO TELL THE TRUTH, ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY'RE WITH A WOMAN FOR THE AMOUNT OF TIME THAT YOU ALL HAVE BEEN TOGETHER. I MEAN WHY WASTE HALF OF A DECADE LYING TO SOMEONE? THAT DOESN'T MAKE SENSE. I DON'T THINK THAT HE IS JUST WITH YOU BECAUSE HE HAS NOTHING BETTER TO DO, AND IF YOU CAN'T SEE THAT BY NOW, THEN I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO TELL YOU.





AND...YES, HE PROBABLY IS GETTING SICK OF YOU ALWAYS QUESTIONING HIM. MY BOYFRIEND JUST TOLD ME LAST NIGHT THAT ONE OF THE THINGS THAT HE LOVES SO MUCH ABOUT ME IS THE FACT THAT WHEN HE COMES AND EXPLAINS SOMETHING TO ME, I DON'T ASK 50 MILLION QUESTIONS. ';WELL, HOW, AND WHY, AND WHAT TIME, AND WHY AGAIN, AND WITH WHO?';...WILL REALLY GET ON A MAN'S LAST NERVES.





JUST BE COOL, AND BELIEVE ME, WHATEVER YOU NEED TO KNOW WILL DEFINITELY SURFACE, WHETHER IT'S GOOD OR BAD...IT WILL SURFACE.





GOOD LUCK BABY GIRL...Cheating??
you have to trust him till he gives you a reason not too...or you will destroy your replationship. I have been hurt badly also before and have a hard time with trust..so I do know how you feel.
Men believe they are telling the truth when they say they will never cheat. It's what they believe. In reality, does any of us REALLY know %100 if we will ever cheat or not? There are no absolutes in the world, not even for you.





The only person that will get hurt if you don't learn to trust, is you. Yes, he will move on because of it, sorry. Work with your trust issues, most people, men and women, have no intentions of ever cheating, and most don't, but there are no absolutes.
I hear you.i am in your same posistion..except that i have gotten over the man before cheating..dare to love completly...it is just your doubts leading you and not your heart..if you love him and want to be with him,, give him a chance to be HIM..he isnt the other guy. ALWAYS BE TRUE TO YOURSELF...GOOD LUCK
You've kinda answered your question. It's not very appealing to show your insecurities. Seems lilke you need to have other things in your life besides him. Don't make him responsible for your happiness. Get a life of your own.
Girls are just as bad! trust him and stop questioning him or he'll run! if you still need to know check his phone when he's not around, if you find nothing then give it up, TRUST HIM! You will never know anyway unless your a mind reader or a human lie detector...
YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT ANSWER.FROM YOUR EX. SO YOU EITHER NEED TO BITE THE BULLET AND JUST TRUST HIM OR LET HIM GO.
If you've been with him for 5 1/2 years, you should know by now whether he's a man of his word or not. Has he ever lied to you in the past? If not, then you have no reason to doubt him. I think men usually are telling the truth when they say they aren't cheating on you. But if you have to even ask them that question, you have a problem. No one can PROVE that they're being faithful - that's an impossible task for you to ask of him. With someone you truly love, they should always be innocent until proven guilty, not the other way around.





You're right - your insecurities will push him away if you're not careful. If this 5 year relationship means anything to you, you should consider couples counseling so that you can resolve your trust issues.





I know plenty of people who keep their cell phones off. I usually interpret it as a courtesy to me - it's totally annoying when someone stops talking to me so that they can answer their cellphone.
You have major trust and control issues, seeing a counselor may help you.. Not all people are out to screw with you. You are doing things that become self fullfilling prophecies. You are acting this insanely around your new boyfriend I would not blame him if he did start looking around.





Women who have trust issues generalize behavior of the man who ';victimized'; them in to all men.





There is a coorelation between your mental health and the people you attract. If you are acting nutzo, you will more likely attract someone with a fix-it mentality or another user.





Get your self to a psychologist or a counselor 1 session per week for about 6-12 months to discuss your trust issues.
if there isn't a smoking gun after 5 1/2 years he's probably on the up n up
You need to see a therapist. Unless he has a very sick relative or a job that effectively keeps him on-call, he SHOULD have his phone off during dates.
signs of a cheater are different for everyone,first of all if you dont have trust you have nothing. give space and then if you find out for sure hes cheating, then move on. there is some one out there for everyone---trust your instincts-only you know whats right for you--good luck always
If you can't trust him, then don't be with him and don't waste anymore of his time.
Obviously you have trust issues. That's okay, but in a relationship, especially a long term one such as this, it has to be built on trust. With this, if you can't trust, then you should not be in a relationship. But if you have strong feelings for him, then just talk to him about it. Tell him how you're paranoid, yes, because you are. It's not like he has his phone off when you guys aren't together, or he comes around with lipstick on his neck or smells of another woman's perfume. You can tell especially if he becomes rather distant. Anything you need, I can help, I know exactly how it is, and I had the same exact issue but I realized, what's the point of being with that person if you're not enjoying it 1283721365% of the time. If you're not, find someone new.





And if someone is with you that long, you should've but a bit of trust in your foundation, don't you think?
Stop verbalizing your distrust first of all. That in itself is damaging to the relationship. If you're looking for ';signs'; you're going to find them whether they're accurate or not. I think the fact that he turns his phone off when he's with you is incredibly sweet and considerate. Women know when someone's cheating. You can feel it. That's woman's intuition. So, give him a chance to show you that he's a good guy. Eluding to the fact that he might be the same kind of dirtball as your ex probably hurts him pretty bad. Just act like everything is okay, and soon enough, you'll start to believe it yourself. Don't worry about cheating until you get some kind of evidence. Until then, enjoy his company and practice trusting him.

I wanna get away from my traitor best friend and my cheating husband. Im ready to move on. How..?!?

My best friend cheated on me with my husband. We're at the divorce stage. Us three had a huge bust up with one another. Ultimately, I left them both in tears and now I just want to move on. There's no way im gonna get back together with my husband or my best friend. I just want a change right now, a new look, a new attitude, a new lifestyle and just do everything differently now. I want to CHANGE. How shall I move on...?? I just wanna get on with my life. Lifes too short. Please help guys..!!I wanna get away from my traitor best friend and my cheating husband. Im ready to move on. How..?!?
I am so sorry that this happened tp you. It has also happened to me a few years ago. My advice is (first) when people show/tell you who they are, believe them the first time. In my case, it took me a long time to be able to trust new people coming into my life. If you find yourself going through that please keep in mind that these people didn't wrong you, your ex's did (ex friend and Husband). Don't let these ex's keep you from trusting people who deserve to be trusted. Just make sure to listen to these new people (and potential new friends) when they show/tell you who they are.


Second, don't give the ex's the time of day....or the chance to talk u out of doing what you are doing. Do not play any mind games with these people (if you can call them that). Keep in mind that this thing with them will never last! This ';relationship'; that they have developed was built on quick sand. There is no concrete in the foundation.....it will definitely fall in time. Anything born out of a lie is doomed from the beginning.


And third, Living well is the best kind of revenge. Don't tie yourself down right away with someone else...(my opinion). Get to know the new you without a husband and x best friend. And realize that she ain't that bad of a girl! Experiment with your style and such and get to know what YOU like and what YOU don't! Go out and have fun....and remember what FUN is! Get out of the environment where you will constantly be ';runnung into that past life and all.'; Get your life back together (and your heart back together), and get out there and live your new life. And be sure to thank your ex hubby (soon to be) (sarcastically) for giving you the second chance at life that his actions have given you! And don't (resist)listen to those people that are going to tell u not to go through with your divorce. This divorce is the begining to your won life! Its a gift! Treat it as such!I wanna get away from my traitor best friend and my cheating husband. Im ready to move on. How..?!?
TY for choosing my answer, But I was just talking from my experience.

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No, I need to thank YOU...!! You are truly right. Thank you so much for helping me see sense...!!





Many thanks..!!

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Well you've already done the first step which is filing for divorce. A lot of people I know move to another city, or at least a different part of town so they can transform themselves and just be more comfortable knowing that you won't bump into either of them at all or as much. Also, try to find a new group of friends. This can be hard but look for activity groups (book clubs, knitting, rock climbing, soccer, etc) where you can meet new people, or try the internet. I know it's hard to pick yourself up especially after such a huge blow (losing two people you love), but if you take the initiative and are motivated to change, then you can do it. Good luck and keep your head up!
Moving on means saying goodbye to your old way of life and the people in it. You have already moved on by getting rid of your husband and the woman who claimed to be your 'friend'. Emotions take a little longer to catch up, so be prepared for some grieving and soul searching. Once this phase passes, you will be fine.





Do get a new hairstyle or anything that lifts your spirits.
It is not clear how and why they have cheated you as you say. I don't feel they have cheated you a person who is crying when you are leaving them cannot cheat, just re visit the things may be they did it unknowingly or it can be by mistake. Please try to resolve the problem nothing is bigger then love in this world and if you will forgive them it will save at-lest 2 lives from spoiling you and your husbands. Please do think it twice before taking any step.
DIVORCE the solution all the time try getting yur husband back from yur best friend and make her pay giving him divorce means she win u lose.


AND DONT ASK questions here you will mostly get a answer like get divorce or leave him or some thing people are not positive here on these boards thats wht i think and if people use brain and think wisely they will be sucessful;


just look at the divorce rate in some of the muslim countries AND THINK WHY ITS LOW
im sorry. first id hit your husband for doin that. thats messed up..


what you should do is not think about it. and try to move on. i know its hard,


but the less you think of it the less youll have to deal with it. now u will cuz ur in the divorce part, but





just think of it this way. your husbands a dog. your single. new guys =]


and a new start. its not the end. dont be sad because it ended. laugh because it happened.


she obviously wasnt your best friend. good friends are hard to come by
If you want a change then you can move. Probably best to get away. Or take a nice extra long vacation. Go travelling, head off to Thailand and enjoy the lifesytle over there.





Or you could take up a new hobbby or sport. Keep yourself busy and active.





Good Luck
Make a new crowd of friends?


Move to a different town/state?


Hang out at salons?


Take some lessons in something extreme? skydiving/rock climbing/ rafting


Go arghh in the mirror whenever you leave the house?


I believe these will all give you new friends/ a new style, and an attitude.
Good for you ,why not take a relaxing break to somewhere nice to clear your head and plan what you would like to do with your life ,you go girl good luck and blessing to you .
Hmmm, this would make complete sense if you were 16 and ';husband'; was replaced with ';boyfriend';.
i feel for u and its sad maybe move to a new place? it must be hard but right now dont make very hard descions ur hurting just think things through
Bad situation:( right its over and time for you to move on if you have no ties or commitments in the city your in then move somewhere and have a totally new start. if you have commitments family, job etc then move to a different area in your city. book in for a haircut and get a complete hair makeover something totally different new colour new cut go shopping and get yourself some new clothes that match your new look. join a club, dancing classes, a gym, take a course or try a pole dancing class may sound a little bit weird but at the minute their all the rage and may help you to feel confident about yourself and empowered but the main rule is GIVE IT A GO if you dont give something a fair go then you wont know if it fits in with the new you if it doesnt then chalk it up to having a new experience and move on, doing all these things will help you meet new people and change your circle of friends. it will be difficult at the start but just remember that its a new you and throw your insecurities out the door good luck and HAVE FUN :)

How long till the hurt goes away? A planned pregnancy, he cheated, I left him, now he avoids me...?

We were together 4 yrs and he had problems with infidelity, but we were in counselling and he had me convinced he was really sure our relationship meant the world to him and he would never do it again-that at 45 yrs old he was really ready to commit for good.





He wanted us to have a child, one more chance in his life to have a family (his other children grew up without him). I believed him, and agreed to try to get pregnant. It took 2 weeks.





But 2 months later I caught him trying to cheat with a woman at work. I confronted him and he said he was just not happy at home because of the problems my teenager causes. I finally left. I couldnt take it anymore.





I dont want him back, but it hurts me that he totaly avoids me, doesnt phone me, changed his number-basicly ignores me. He has assured me of financial support and thinks that all he obligated





Now hes all over the net, trying to meet women, while Im almost due with his child. Will I feel better after my baby comesHow long till the hurt goes away? A planned pregnancy, he cheated, I left him, now he avoids me...?
your life will get better, u did the right thing by leaving him, he is a coward with bad character, best to know now than after u married him. just a low life, he just doesn't want responsibility, doesn't like your kid, if he is offering financial help it is still more than some get. takes time to get over the hurt, that u chose to trust someone that maybe u shouldn't have, but we all make mistakes and learn by them. u will feel better when u no longer expect anything of him, what hurts is u thought he would be there for u, in your mind u created this way you wanted your life to be, and u see now it just isn't going to be this way, because he ran out on u, and changed his mind. he did u a great injustice, sounds as if he doesn't want to deal with the responsibility of a family. theres not much u can do, only know this is something within him, that isn't quite normal, that u couldn't see before. best to know this, and see the truth that he is never going to be there or help with the child. so sorry for u, get some help, maybe some spiritual therapy. when something like this happens to us, it shakes our world, makes us feel so insecure, but hang in there, and life will get better.How long till the hurt goes away? A planned pregnancy, he cheated, I left him, now he avoids me...?
You're going to have a baby and the baby is the most important thing here, not his infidelity or him not talking to you. Get a hold of yourself, your pregnant and your a emotional mess! Have the baby, see a lawyer, get child support and get rid of that jerk. I'm speaking to you from a mans perspective as I don't care what he does; He's know good for you and the baby other than a paycheck. Got it! Get it. You don't need a man like that, you need a man who loves you unconditionally not a guy who wants to string you along. The hurt may not go away for awhile but you'll be OK. Now, first things first! 1. Have your Baby 2. Get a Lawyer 3. Check for your baby (mandated by a court of law, Garnish wages etc. until your child is the ripe old age of 18 yrs or whatever the law allows) 4. Get on with your life. Amen!


Merry Christmas to you and good luck!
wow i feel so sorry for you, i hope that this pain will go away, i personally have never experienced something like this, try getting another partner that really cares for u (dont give up), that may make things better , it does with my ex's, if this new guy really cares for u he will except ur hardships and try and make u feel better... things are also bound to heal with time too, treat urself to something and do everything u can to get out of this miserable state.
Living well is the best revenge.





Go out and make you life and that of your children's something to envy. Focusing on that will take away the pain.





In 10-15 years, he will regret it and you won't care.
Well, approaching a girl is tough, and the only men that have the arrogance enough to do it are ones who do not revere them enough. I am sorry this has happened to you. I don't know what else to say. I would never, ever approach a girl, but I would also never hurt her emotionally. When I read stories like this, I'm always shocked.
You could feel better, you could feel worse. It all depends on your perspective.





But the pain will definitely stay for a good long time. Having someone you love betray you always hurts. And all you can do is accept the truth, deal with the pain and wait for the time to come when you can move on.





You can't MAKE the pain leave. You have to deal with it.
U have totally trapped urself up with a guy who will destroy u slowly and steadily. But when the child comes he'll mean the world to u so wait 4 him and try to keep him away 4m that rascal it will do good 2 u as well as ur baby. BEST OF LUCK! and MERRY CHRISTMAS!
I am sorry you had to go through that..The pain will go away if you let it..move on..do some things to keep your mind occupied..do not reason with why he did it, that will not help..





focus on the baby.. your new baby that you will have and like it or not that is his baby too..he has to have a part of that babies life...my suggestion is talk to him about what you two are gonna do..
Ifeel for your pain You sound like a good lady, sorry that you got tied up with a scumbucket
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i think you do correct . Cheater and layer person not able to love i know its hard for you but up and down is part of the life .All men are not equal . take care


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bye
You seem totally oblivious to his desire to cheat. It's like you're well aware of his infedility , yet you dont understand his reasons at all.





1. He no longer is attracted to you.


2. He cheats because he can.


3. He doesnt like your kid, (excuse)


4. youre clueless.


5. youre clueless.


6. you're clueless.


7. and i quote '; i don want him back, but it hurts me that he totally avoids me.';


8. You'll have a child who will rarely meet his father and develop an unflenching hatred for him.


9. The father in 10-20 years will realize he's been wrong all these years for being so distant and unsupportive of his son.


10. This is another typical american family, congrats.
The hurt will stop...I was in a similar situation with my sons father. At least he is offering financial support(something I have done without). This man doesnt sound like a very good role model, so it is a blessing that all he is offering is the financial support, and doesnt want to play an active role in the childs life. At least you wont have to worry about the baby looking at a womanizing adulture and thinking that it is ok. Just give yourself a little bit of time, and keep telling yourself you are better than him, and you can definately do better.
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He said I would like her! I want him! What now?! How can i still be his friend?

I liked this guy for the longest time. I try getting close and see if i could become something like a backup girlfriend. I knew he had a gf and i knew it was gonna end sooner or later! so i tryed to wait it out. but their relationship was really close and long so it would be hard for him to move on right away. The girl cheats on him and they break up. for a whole week im trying my best to be with him! the only thing he wants is her! ahh!! we talked to each often that week and the day before they got back to together he said ';you remind me so much of her. i think you guys would be great friends if you met her'; well i did, sort of. she cursed me out saying to stay away from him and never talk to him on the phone. they have a on/off relationship now and the thing is i went through the same things he did. i know the complications he's going through. and i knew he liked me, but shes getting in my way. i havent talked to him since and school is almost over. he'll be going to another school.He said I would like her! I want him! What now?! How can i still be his friend?
Who cares about her! She's stupid! If I were u I would ask him out. She is like another girl... Just forget about her and go for him. Don't be afaid or anything and if he says no then say it was just a dare. But i doubt it. Im shure he likes u no doubt about dat! JUST DO IT BEFORE IT';S TOOOO LATE OR YOULL REGRET AND U NEVER NO YOU MIGHT GET THE GUY IF U TRIED IF U DONT THEN WHO KNOWS WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN. %26lt;3

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A different kind of cheating question.My question is ,how did you get away with it?

What excuses did you use?Where would you meet the person you were chesting with ?How long did it go on ?And go ahead and any other little piece of information you would like to add in !A different kind of cheating question.My question is ,how did you get away with it?
no excuses....doesnt matter where u go....the person ur cheating will on will eventually find out....





never leave the one that loves you for the one you like


bc the one u like will leave u for someone they love....A different kind of cheating question.My question is ,how did you get away with it?
Why would you want information on such a low down, dirty, hurtful, stupid act? I hope no one responds with some good information for you because what I've seen so far are some great people trying to give help to others..... not aide in hurting people.
The way cheaters get away with it is because they are dating or married to someone who trusts them. If they really trust you they just always give you the benefit of the doubt. Cheaters are cold and cruel. Worthy of death.
when you come home, u have to treat her the exact same way as when you left...





get a side job fixing things...lol.. like painting or something...





ummm got a job this Saturday morning at 10am.. then just get to work!
If your looking for excuses, I won't give you any, because there's NO excuse to cheat.
I'm thiniking you could write a book . Especially if we can all get creative here.
Sorry can't help you with that. I'm not a cheater.
are you looking for some pointers cause ur getting ready to cheat? if so, count me out!
are yo uplanning to cheat and trying to get some hinters ?

All the couples who are still married but went through issues with cheating?

Has anyone had a husband or wife who cheated or had intent to cheat but got caught in which you are still married to and are stronger than ever? DId they cheat again? Did it bring you closer and further away? How did you move on from it?All the couples who are still married but went through issues with cheating?
My husband left me and our children for drugs and his friends. I have no idea if he ever actually cheated, but girls he knew gave him and his friend free drugs for a while, so I have my suspicions. I was leaving him and he was shocked, saying he had no idea I was unhappy. We have stayed together, had some really rough periods, but now we are better than ever, married 35 years this year.

Is he cheating on me???? help PLEASEE!!!!?

ok so my bf lives an hour away and i think hes cheating on me like he never really wants to talk to me on the phone anymore he says he will call me back later and dosent and hes always going and getting drunk with his friends so what do i do and how do i know if he is???Is he cheating on me???? help PLEASEE!!!!?
It really doesn't matter. Just break up with him and date someone closer. Obviously he doesn't have the character to date you over a long distance relationship, but then, most men don't.Is he cheating on me???? help PLEASEE!!!!?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a> .. well here are some signs of cheating.





if he is cheating, then just confront him about it, ask him plain and simply '; hey baby are you cheating on me'; you will know what to do, trust me. good luck!!
Whether he is cheating is debatable without proof or him admitting it. The question should be is this what I want out of a bf? Do you want a bf that never really wants to talk to you on the phone or even give you a call to see HOW YOU ARE?


Do you want a bf that putts you off and doesn't follow through on what he tells you? Do you want a bf that spends more time drinking with his friends than spending time with you?


If the answer is no, you need to find someone who wants to be with you and enjoy life together, somebody who wants to know how you are doing to enjoy your triumphs and share your defeats or just inspire you when nothing is happening.


He may want to be that person, but he has to choose and if he says the worst so be it as you know where you stand and can continue toward what you are seeking. Don't cry too much if it comes to throwing away fool's gold when it's really something precious you are looking for.
hire that TV show cheaters..lol

After 7 years, my husband's pushing me away after being after being confronted about possibly cheating?

I have felt for the past month or so like things were really off. We've been having certain people over weekly and getting friendly with one particular girl. Well I felt awkward from the beginning about her and let my husband know that I didn't trust her . I feel they've developed a connection and we've all become friends regardless. Well he's put himself in situations alone with her a little too much knowing that she and him make me uncomfortable. We had a very open talk about how I didn't want him to put himself in a position that would make me question that anything was going on between them. at a party we had, everyone suddelny noticed she left with my husband on the ATVs and were gone for a little over an hour. Her boyfriend was fuming which led me to question things as well. After beign crushed and felt like I was betrayed, I confronted him and it has done nothing pther than push him away and bring up issues he's had with me insinuating he did it on purpose to piss me offAfter 7 years, my husband's pushing me away after being after being confronted about possibly cheating?
In his mind you are probably extremely jealous %26amp; controlling %26amp; that's his way of showing you that you have no power. He even said he was purposely trying to piss you off. Who TRIES to piss someone off unless they really hate you? So something is definitely off with you two. HOWEVER, I am a serious b*tch when people screw with me %26amp; he would never lay eyes on that girl again. Not because I'm jealous but because he used that person to disrespect me. She would be gone in a heartbeat. Who's gonna be pissed now? LOL! I do not play with people like that. Get yourself some guts %26amp; tell him how it's going to be from now on. If he wants to walk then he can if that's all his marriage is worth to him.After 7 years, my husband's pushing me away after being after being confronted about possibly cheating?
Trust your gut feeling. When you confronted him and he said he went off with her like that to piss you off you know that's not true. Her boyfriend also thinks something is going on and no doubt the others also for them to bring it up that both of them are off on the ATV's so long. He knows he is guilty and is trying to make it out to be you and not him who is doing wrong.
It sounds like more problems are on there way. He is also going to have to deal with her boyfriends anger, so he is setting himself up for disaster. Watch, and wait You can't ';lock him up'; and he knows right from wrong.


The ';turning away'; sounds like a guilty conscious to me. Sorry, but it sounds like he is cheating, obviously he is letting someone else come between the two of you and no matter how you look at that it is wrong. Good Luck and take care of yourself.
One thing is for sure, when you feel that something is wrong, then something is usually wrong! If your husband is reacting with anger at your questioning him about it, that is a sure sign of guilt! Anytime you confront someone about something tha they are actually guilty of, they will almost always react with anger! Keep your eyes and ears open and it won't be long before you know the truth for sure! Goo luck to you!
As a former (and recovering) cheater myself, it sounds like he is getting ready to cheat on you if he hasn't already. Looking back on my own experience I began experiencing the desire to cheat when I found out how easy some women were and how trusting my wife was. She confronted me finally and I confessed, but it was too late. We are still together (barely - see my question posted recently) and she has never forgiven me. I haven't really forgiven myself either. You need to confront him and her as soon as possible. Don't wait.
Don't have to be a rocket scientist to see that he does have a connection with this girl...an improper on at that. If he cannot respect your wishes to dis-associate himself from her for your sake...then you need to think twice about giving your attention, affection, love, whatever to him unwarrantedly. LOOK AT WHAT YOU ARE GETTING OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP AND DECIEDE IF THAT IS WHAT YOU 'REALLY' WANT. GOOD LUCK.
Why would anyones husband do those things he did. Ask yourself this. Would you do that if he asked you not to do it? NO right? He didnt respect you enough to listen meaning, when someone takes a big risk like that, it only means on thing: spur of the moment, passion, excitement, attraction and cheating....Kick her but and move on. I dont like biches like that. Ive come across a few of them.
Sorry dear. Big hugs to you. Prepare your heart and checking account (I'm doing the same, so I sympathize with you) because he is cheating. Ba$t@rd doesn't deserve you, that's for certain. Move on with hope. Peace.
He is playing the ';REVERSE'; game. By pointing out the issues of the past he is tryng to keep you away from the CURRENT issue. He is cheating.
confront both of them. if u find out he is cheating with her yell and scream like never b4 at them then walk out with out another word.
Just do the same thing with her boyfriend and see how he feels about it.
He's cheating. Confront them both with it.
seems u know the answer already the question is what will u do.. will u stay or would u move on to someone who can love u and respect u... good luck
Wow, that sounds really shady. But I wonder if he was insulted from the beginning that you were afraid of his commitment to you....especially after him being faithful to you for 7 years. But he definitely shouldnt have left on an atv for over an hour with her. That is crossing lines that shouldnt be crossed. And I wonder if that was just an excuse to hide the fact that he is having an affiar with her. God, I would be frustrated if I were you. I have no idea how to take this at all. Her boyfriend was mad as well, so this tells me he has concerns too! Bottom line, your husband was disrespectful to you and her boyfriends feelings. And you guys need a serious sit down! Good luck girl...





Oh, and if she makes you uncomfortable....dont invite the hoe over! Us women have the best instincts. My best friend who I love dearly, stole her friends man recently...and the friend was very apprehensive about her to begin with. Yea, dont let her over at all. Cut off ties!

How can I know if I pushed him away? I do NOT take responsibility for him cheating but maybe I pushed him to?

be unhappy?





I saw the man I was dating driving with a woman in his car when he was supposed to be with me. He acted like he barely knew me, was shifty and nervous, so I knew *something* is up. He said he %26amp; his ';friend'; were going to get something to eat, although he %26amp; I were going out that night. He acted indifferent when I reminded him he told me he loved me recently and said he doesn't have to ';explain anything'; to me when I asked him what's going on. All the while he was smiling at me, like I was a big joke to him.





He'd given me his debit card %26amp; pin, introduced me to his mother and some friends, given me a key to his place, planned to go to Australia together this summer, asked me to move in with him and said he wanted to marry me and have kids.





He seemed true but I always had my doubts about it. So I got jealous. And we broke up a few times because of it. I know people HATE jealous SOs but he should have just told me he couldn't deal anymore instead of lying.





How can I evaluate the situation to know if I pushed him away, so I don't do it again with another man?How can I know if I pushed him away? I do NOT take responsibility for him cheating but maybe I pushed him to?
he's just not that into you...





don't worry about evaluating his end of it, if you think your jealousy is a problem, concentrate on trying to fix that and move on.How can I know if I pushed him away? I do NOT take responsibility for him cheating but maybe I pushed him to?
First, control your emotions. I know that man needs some space when certain things (and I think is normal even in a woman). When we are in relationship, it doesnt mean that you have to explain certain things, but if you have your doubts about ';his friend'; well, evaluate his behavior. If you dont want to be like this all the time it will make you crazy and tired. Just look for help.
This man wants his cake and eat it too. Many men have women they can spend their lives with and have another women to play with..





know what kind of man you have before you get involved with
what you need to do is give them space theirs no such things as to fast its innocent till proven guity just let them explain themslevs everything has a reason
best way to know is to ask.there is no other real way to find out unless he a has a best friend you can ask
It's better to just get out while you are still okay.
he lead you on with false hope. he is trying to play you, but you are not a joke, it is not you. he clearly has no respect for any woman, he mistreated you and that other woman. you weren't jealous- you CAUGHT HIM! he was busted and the feelings you should have had would have been anger and disgust. move on, let yourself take time with the next guy, things flow naturally, and let them earn your trust do not hand it away. you did nothing wrong.
A female I knew in college, dated a guy for 7 months and he proposed.


She said yes. He introduced her to his family, his friends, his co-workers, and even the people who waited on him in restaurants. He bought her clothes, gave her some money for some bills, and went to look at wedding rings with her. She got flowers from him, at work, and proudly displayed the flowers on her desk. The cards always said how much he loved her and that she was his angel from God.





You're probably saying ';so what?';. He had another girl on the side. He saw THAT girl, when he wasn't seeing THIS girl. That girl was for fun and sex and hanging-out. This girl was for family, babies, marriage, commitment, etc. So, this may not pertain to your question, but don't ever, EVER, think that just because a guy says ';I love you'; and buys you stuff, that he's clean and lily-white.

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