Guys who cheated and got away with it - how did it affect your relationship? (if at all) any stories like this

Did it make you a better partner/husband to her?


Did you feel guilty later on?


Did you feel guilt at the time?


Why did you do it?





I know of a guy who cheated on his gf/wife with one girl (pretty sure it was only one) - he went clubbing to find her then went out of his way to cheat and get away with it. It was only a few times but only ended with the other girl found out about his relationship. She got suss of him as he was always nervous around her - he obviously wasn't a serial cheat. He married the gf/wife a few yrs later and I wonder if their marriage could ever be as good because she never found out. I wonder if he could be a good husband and how his past cheating affects it and him (since she didn't know). What do you think?





any other stories like this?Guys who cheated and got away with it - how did it affect your relationship? (if at all) any stories like this
One time or 100 times...once is more than enough. And trying to figure out whether this male who later married is a ';good'; husband can only be answered by his wife and himself. It's a hard enough agenda/task for one's self to stay on their ';own side of the street'; let alone try to figure out and/or get inside another person's head. Guys who cheated and got away with it - how did it affect your relationship? (if at all) any stories like this
Usually when its based on dishonesty.. doesnt last.. Unless both are being dishonest.. maybe they can come to a common ground.


But since he is such a jerk.. he probably isnt all that good of a husband.. esp the way you sd he went to the club seeking an affair!!.


I don't know how women dont know their man is cheating on them.. I usually get a feeling..
I Million times agree with Alexander
Okay ... here's my opinion, and that's all it is ... my opinion. If I'm wrong, I owe you a thousand apologies. If I'm right, listen closely.





First of all, it's pretty obvious that you are the one he cheated with. You simply know the ';gf';s point of view too intimately. You seem particularly concerned about this guy being a good husband. If he's what you claim, just someone you know who cheated, you probably wouldn't care what kind of a husband he makes.





Secondly, I see one massive error in your explanation ...





You claim his wife never knew?





Come on! She knew EXACTLY what was going on! Women are not stupid! They can read a cheating man like an open book written in large print, braille, and a book-on-tape.





No. She knew what was going on and your new husband told you that he never admitted to cheating. Why? Because he doesn't want you to know that his ex-wife knows that it was YOU he cheated with. He's protecting her. He wants you to think his ex-wife doesn't think you're a homewrecker.





Typical cheating male strategy, pitting one woman against the other while spinning a massive web of lies. And how does he add the finishing touch to this web? He tells you regularly that he feels guilty for cheating on her, and that he's learned his lesson and will never cheat on you. And you're falling for it.





What kind of a husband will he be?





Well ... he hasn't started off with you very well. He's already lied to you. Quite frankly, he seems to be a better EX husband, than a husband ... at least he protects his ex, which is more than what I can say for what he's done to her and you during your marriages.





I know you're looking for similar stories ... probably in the hopes that someone will say, ';Oh they'll be fine ... it was just a one time fling';, and hey ... maybe it was.





But he's already lying to both of you. You say, ';he obviously wasn't a serial cheat';. Yeah ... that's probably what he told you and her.





You might want to have a little chat with ex-wife and blow the whole thing wide open. This is the LAST thing your husband wants, which is another reason he's told you his ex-wife doesn't know. Because if you approach her and tell her that he cheated, you'll destroy her emotionally. At least, that's what he wants you to think. You won't, in reality. You'll sit her down in a cafe, and break it to her. And she'll just sip her tea, smile and say, ';I know. I'm not dumb';.





So this is my advice:





Call her up. Right now. Ask her if she wants to go for coffee.





I'll bet she's eager to do it. She's been waiting for this phone call for years.





And so have you.





Best wishes
i am 19 years old i was with my girlfriend for 5 years (from age 14 to 19 we broke up 2 motnhs ago)and we have a kid together......i was and still am young and stupid.....and didnt know how special the relationship i had was.....and ic heated constantly......the story in particular....i cheated on her when she was 8 months pregnant (i know what a scum bag move) i was meessing with the other girl for a month...and that was the only situation where i felt guilty and ended it because of guilt.....i have never felt guilty any other time....i dont know why i dont feel guilt.....i only feel guilty when i get caught.....because then i see her pain.....and i did it because it made me feel good about myself when ever a pretty girl was interested .........