I am so sorry that this happened tp you. It has also happened to me a few years ago. My advice is (first) when people show/tell you who they are, believe them the first time. In my case, it took me a long time to be able to trust new people coming into my life. If you find yourself going through that please keep in mind that these people didn't wrong you, your ex's did (ex friend and Husband). Don't let these ex's keep you from trusting people who deserve to be trusted. Just make sure to listen to these new people (and potential new friends) when they show/tell you who they are.
Second, don't give the ex's the time of day....or the chance to talk u out of doing what you are doing. Do not play any mind games with these people (if you can call them that). Keep in mind that this thing with them will never last! This ';relationship'; that they have developed was built on quick sand. There is no concrete in the foundation.....it will definitely fall in time. Anything born out of a lie is doomed from the beginning.
And third, Living well is the best kind of revenge. Don't tie yourself down right away with someone else...(my opinion). Get to know the new you without a husband and x best friend. And realize that she ain't that bad of a girl! Experiment with your style and such and get to know what YOU like and what YOU don't! Go out and have fun....and remember what FUN is! Get out of the environment where you will constantly be ';runnung into that past life and all.'; Get your life back together (and your heart back together), and get out there and live your new life. And be sure to thank your ex hubby (soon to be) (sarcastically) for giving you the second chance at life that his actions have given you! And don't (resist)listen to those people that are going to tell u not to go through with your divorce. This divorce is the begining to your won life! Its a gift! Treat it as such!I wanna get away from my traitor best friend and my cheating husband. Im ready to move on. How..?!?
TY for choosing my answer, But I was just talking from my experience.
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No, I need to thank YOU...!! You are truly right. Thank you so much for helping me see sense...!!
Many thanks..!!
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Well you've already done the first step which is filing for divorce. A lot of people I know move to another city, or at least a different part of town so they can transform themselves and just be more comfortable knowing that you won't bump into either of them at all or as much. Also, try to find a new group of friends. This can be hard but look for activity groups (book clubs, knitting, rock climbing, soccer, etc) where you can meet new people, or try the internet. I know it's hard to pick yourself up especially after such a huge blow (losing two people you love), but if you take the initiative and are motivated to change, then you can do it. Good luck and keep your head up!
Moving on means saying goodbye to your old way of life and the people in it. You have already moved on by getting rid of your husband and the woman who claimed to be your 'friend'. Emotions take a little longer to catch up, so be prepared for some grieving and soul searching. Once this phase passes, you will be fine.
Do get a new hairstyle or anything that lifts your spirits.
It is not clear how and why they have cheated you as you say. I don't feel they have cheated you a person who is crying when you are leaving them cannot cheat, just re visit the things may be they did it unknowingly or it can be by mistake. Please try to resolve the problem nothing is bigger then love in this world and if you will forgive them it will save at-lest 2 lives from spoiling you and your husbands. Please do think it twice before taking any step.
DIVORCE the solution all the time try getting yur husband back from yur best friend and make her pay giving him divorce means she win u lose.
AND DONT ASK questions here you will mostly get a answer like get divorce or leave him or some thing people are not positive here on these boards thats wht i think and if people use brain and think wisely they will be sucessful;
just look at the divorce rate in some of the muslim countries AND THINK WHY ITS LOW
im sorry. first id hit your husband for doin that. thats messed up..
what you should do is not think about it. and try to move on. i know its hard,
but the less you think of it the less youll have to deal with it. now u will cuz ur in the divorce part, but
just think of it this way. your husbands a dog. your single. new guys =]
and a new start. its not the end. dont be sad because it ended. laugh because it happened.
she obviously wasnt your best friend. good friends are hard to come by
If you want a change then you can move. Probably best to get away. Or take a nice extra long vacation. Go travelling, head off to Thailand and enjoy the lifesytle over there.
Or you could take up a new hobbby or sport. Keep yourself busy and active.
Good Luck
Make a new crowd of friends?
Move to a different town/state?
Hang out at salons?
Take some lessons in something extreme? skydiving/rock climbing/ rafting
Go arghh in the mirror whenever you leave the house?
I believe these will all give you new friends/ a new style, and an attitude.
Good for you ,why not take a relaxing break to somewhere nice to clear your head and plan what you would like to do with your life ,you go girl good luck and blessing to you .
Hmmm, this would make complete sense if you were 16 and ';husband'; was replaced with ';boyfriend';.
i feel for u and its sad maybe move to a new place? it must be hard but right now dont make very hard descions ur hurting just think things through
Bad situation:( right its over and time for you to move on if you have no ties or commitments in the city your in then move somewhere and have a totally new start. if you have commitments family, job etc then move to a different area in your city. book in for a haircut and get a complete hair makeover something totally different new colour new cut go shopping and get yourself some new clothes that match your new look. join a club, dancing classes, a gym, take a course or try a pole dancing class may sound a little bit weird but at the minute their all the rage and may help you to feel confident about yourself and empowered but the main rule is GIVE IT A GO if you dont give something a fair go then you wont know if it fits in with the new you if it doesnt then chalk it up to having a new experience and move on, doing all these things will help you meet new people and change your circle of friends. it will be difficult at the start but just remember that its a new you and throw your insecurities out the door good luck and HAVE FUN :)
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