How do I deal with my husbands ex (who he cheated with) not going away?

My husband and I separated six mths ago because he was cheating. Now we decided to give the marraige a second chance, but the girl he was with refuses to let go and move on. She is a nuisance and keeps calling and emailing him, both on the house phone and his cell. This has been going on over two months now. What do I do? Should I get involved? I am at my wits end and beginning to think we can't move on with her constantly in the picture because she is always there reminding me that they were together. I am just trying to forget she was ever in the picture. Help.How do I deal with my husbands ex (who he cheated with) not going away?
I think you need to tell him to make a choice. Either he tells her to go away and mean it or tell the second try did not work.How do I deal with my husbands ex (who he cheated with) not going away?
can you get some kind of restraining order for her???





Switch cells with your husband so you're the one she gets when she calls that number and ask him not to answer the home phone - you do it. If she leaves a message asking him to return the call you return it.............. in other words if she keeps getting you maybe she'll give up
Wow. I think you need to move on and get divorced. You deserve better girl. If your husband isn't taking the steps to have her # blocked, changing email and cell #, then he is really not ready to let go of her either. I hope there's no kids involved. Good luck sweety.
He or they are not done with each other just let it go and begin your healing its not her he has some of the blame you should not have to live in constant fear of them being together. If i was you i would step back if he cant put a stop to it move on.
have him change the numbers and all contact with her. if she is doing this its because hes allowing it. I like the fact that u truly are giving him a second chance.good for u not too many women would do so. its his turn to be ur husband again....
He has to get over her first....plain and simple.Change the phone numbers and if she still called, I would be asking some major questions. Why would she still be calling after 2 months...It sounds a little shady to me. Just keep your eyes and ears open.
Put her in his block addresses in his email or close that account and open a new one, and have all your phone numbers changed. If she still persists, call the law...
Your husband needs to grow a spine and tell her to buzz off.
Tammy, here's what you do. Tell the moron husband to tell his little girlie friend to quit calling or the marriage is over for good. He is the one who created this mess and he should be the one to straighten it out. Do not give him another chance to cheat on you. You call the shots.
Yes I think you should absolutely step in. It's not only that she's calling YOUR husband. But she's disrupting not only your husbands life but yours also. She is also violating your house and your right to privacy by calling all the time. First off you didn't mention but I hope your husband is ignoring all the phone calls. If not that's the first place to start. if he wants to work on the marriage he'll forget about the other person. Second of all next time pick up the phone and tell her that you are working on your marriage and that you will not allow for her to keep harassing you and your husband anymore. Then you can say whatever your heart desires!!! Than if it continues change your phone number and your cell number. While it seems like a pain to do it's the best thing you can do. Because no matter what she's going to be able to have access to you so why not completely change everything. You have a lot in your marriage that needs your attention and you don't need someone else trying to interfere when they were responsible for the problems in the first place. A little work to change everything might just be worth it if it can save your marriage. Good luck
You're blaming the wrong person. Your husband obviously hasn't changed his cellphone number and obviously continues to accept her calls. If HE didn't want to do so he could easily change his cellphon number and very easily NOT accept her calls at home, even change the home phone number. If that hasn't been done then why are you blaming her totally? Ask your husband WHY he continues to ALLOW her to call him?
block her emails, change you phone numbers, press charges against her for stalking...she'll get the picture.
Ask HIM to file a PPO on her.





If he refuses, then you know that while you may not want her around....he's not bothered at all by it.





If that's the case, then you really have some thinking to do --mostly about getting rid of him. She'll go away by default.
Keep records of the harrasment and then slap her with a lawsuit for harrasment....or at least get a restraining order against her.....show her and your husband that you mean business. He's either with you on this or not....if he's not willing to put his foot down, then he's not committing 100%
If your hsuband hasn't been able to deal with this and get her to stop calling in two months, he's not trying very hard. He needs to tell this woman that what she is doing is STALKING, and that he is going to report her to the police if she doesn't back off. And he needs to follow through if she doesn't get the message.





JMO, but it sounds like he's being kind of half-hearted about telling her it's over. If I were you I'd factor that in to any decision you make about how much of a second chance you want to give this guy.
here we go with an answer that is obvious: he brought her into the dam relationship and it almost caused him his wife. His wife takes him back and I am guessing that either he did not make it clear enough to the other girl that he wants nothing to do with her or he is playing you both. this is not your problem, it is his. He did it not you and he needs to clean it up or you give him a deadline. make him call her with you there and tell her straight out, leave me alone and take it from there.
My first reaction was, why the heck would your husband allow this to happen? You should be asking yourself that, too.